Sometimes I can't have enough orgasms

Sometimes I can't have enough orgasms
53 here and it seems to have gotten worse over the years. I like you have days I have to do it many times. You are not a lone hyper sexualty is a common response and a theme here and on many forums and books about the subject.
 
I sometimes wonder if there is a connection with timing / age of abuse and when our bodies first were made to experience orgasm and hyper sexual behavior, as a widow at 38 the only option I have right now is masterbation, I am just not prepared to seek out a new relationship. I believe my early 7,8,9 expierences were a bit different then my 12, 13 14 year old experiences. Earlier it seemed like an earthquake across my body, where as later there were much more focused area of my body. All of this I believe ties to hypersexuality.
 
I know I shook a lot...earthquake is a good description! I swear the dry ones were more intense than the wet ones...
I understand that. I actually missed the dry orgasms. I was first introduced to sexual pleasure at age 5 so it was a long time before I actually came and that was at age 12. I enjoyed that and still do but I remember the feeling that I was going to pee but didn’t. I am hypersexual still into my senior years. At one time I thought I was going to wear it out. lol. Good news is that I never did.
 
I understand that. I actually missed the dry orgasms. I was first introduced to sexual pleasure at age 5 so it was a long time before I actually came and that was at age 12. I enjoyed that and still do but I remember the feeling that I was going to pee but didn’t. I am hypersexual still into my senior years. At one time I thought I was going to wear it out. lol. Good news is that I never did.
I had about 2 years of dry orgasms. But I had a lot of them; I went to his house several times a week.
 
My abuser gave me hundreds of them before I hit puberty. It was quite a surprise when I ejaculated for the first time, because no one (including my abuser) told me that it was going to happen.
I was abused from age three and for some reason I didn't connect the abusers many orgasms to something I might do. Because I wasn't having orgasms early on, it just never occurred to me. Then on one occasion when I was about eleven where my brother had penetrated me I did have a dry orgasm. I was a bit astonished since I didn't cum and asked my brother who did cum if that is what an orgasm was like. He assured me that it was an orgasm even though it was dry. At that point I was hooked and never looked back.
 
In my case I don't know if I experienced orgasm in the very early abuse but by the time I was 4, I did experience very intense orgasms, of course dry. I started puberty at age 8 so ejaculations started not too much later. Of course early on no words or understanding for what was going on. I was hypersexual it seems since I can remember.
 
I’ve master-bated on average once a week since puberty. Sometimes multiple times a day. Sometimes I can go a week maybe two without.

Recently I’ve been finding hard to achieve an erection but still am able to master-bate and have an orgasm while limp. Not sure what that is all about?

When I was young I would use women’s underwear section of the Sears catalog to get aroused and F the space between the mattress and boxspring. I often wondered if this was normal adolescent behavior or I was different.
 
Good old Sears catalog, I said I was looking at the boys in the underwear ads other than that same thing very common.
 
I feel I have been hypersexual since the abuse as well. I work a ton and that helps keep my mind off of it for the most part. Weekends are a different situation. My thoughts go wild. Exhibitionist thoughts. Shave myself. Think about telling people I know, male and female what I want to do to them.
 
Recently I’ve been finding hard to achieve an erection but still am able to master-bate and have an orgasm while limp. Not sure what that is all about?
Do you have diabetes or hyperglycemia? High blood sugar can cause erectile dysfunction.
 
I know I'm not the only hypersexual guy here. I've been hypersexual pretty much since the first time my abuser molested me at age 11. For many, it's hard to imagine a "hypersexual 11 year old," but that's exactly what happened to me. My abuser gave me tons of dry orgasms...and (obviously) wet/regular ones eventually. At 11, I was almost immediately hooked on this new-found feeling. I was astounded that people did such things with other people, but it kept me going back to him for more and more and more. Hypersexuality stuck with me, and for decades, I didn't connect the dots; I just thought I was a naturally horny person. Ever since the abuse, I've had a very strong sex drive, but it's getting more intense (worse?) as I age. I'm now in my 50s. There are days when I masturbate as many as 10 times throughout the day. Not every day, but sometimes. On average, I do it 3-4 times per day. I feel like, at 53, that's excessive. Anyone else experiencing this?
I know that I am the same way
 
53 here and it seems to have gotten worse over the years. I like you have days I have to do it many times. You are not a lone hyper sexualty is a common response and a theme here and on many forums and books about the subject.
Same here
 
I understand that. I actually missed the dry orgasms. I was first introduced to sexual pleasure at age 5 so it was a long time before I actually came and that was at age 12. I enjoyed that and still do but I remember the feeling that I was going to pee but didn’t. I am hypersexual still into my senior years. At one time I thought I was going to wear it out. lol. Good news is that I never did.
I'm not sure if I had dry ones. I started at 8 but I do remember the first wet one because he milked me.
 
Once he made me have the first dry orgasm around 8 years old, I couldn't get enough either for many years. After he fell asleep and was snoring, I would masterbate until I hurt myself over and over. I think it was an escape from where I was stuck back then. I would injure myself masterbating as i got older sometimes. Not an issue now, but crazy what is remembered.
 
I don't think most 8-year-old boys masturbate at all, and of those who do, most don't keep going and going and going until they bleed from their urethra and get scabs on the shaft. And most who had that happen once would learn to stop themselves before it happened again. Continuing well into adulthood I can think of many different instances where I injured myself badly enough through overdoing it that I needed medical attention. The refractory period is not a suggestion, you are supposed to let go, I wound up needing regular repeated intervention from a urologist for problems typically associated with much older men when I was 23.

I couldn't stop. Nothing else kept me calm.
 
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I don't think most 8-year-old boys masturbate at all, and of those who do, most don't keep going and going and going until they bleed from their urethra and get scabs on the shaft. And most who had that happen once would learn to stop themselves before it happened again. Continuing well into adulthood I can think of many different instances where I injured myself badly enough through overdoing it that I needed medical attention. The refractory period is not a suggestion, you are supposed to let go, I wound up needing regular repeated intervention from a urologist for problems typically associated with much older men when I was 23.

I couldn't stop. Nothing else kept me calm.
Wow- I can't imagine what a mix of mental and physical pain that must have caused. I hope you've been able to get the help you needed to get it under control. That sounds intense.
 
I remember after the first dry orgasm I had, I kept trying to get them as much as possible. I would wait until I knew everyone else in the house was asleep and then hump my bed until I would repeatedly orgasm, usually until I was too tired and fall asleep afterwards. I knew very little to nothing about sex so when I started ejaculating, it was very shocking to me, as well.
 
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