Sometimes I can't have enough orgasms

[dcwofhs90]

I know I'm not the only hypersexual guy here. I've been hypersexual pretty much since the first time my abuser molested me at age 11. For many, it's hard to imagine a "hypersexual 11 year old," but that's exactly what happened to me. My abuser gave me tons of dry orgasms...and (obviously) wet/regular ones eventually. At 11, I was almost immediately hooked on this new-found feeling. I was astounded that people did such things with other people, but it kept me going back to him for more and more and more. Hypersexuality stuck with me, and for decades, I didn't connect the dots; I just thought I was a naturally horny person. Ever since the abuse, I've had a very strong sex drive, but it's getting more intense (worse?) as I age. I'm now in my 50s. There are days when I masturbate as many as 10 times throughout the day. Not every day, but sometimes. On average, I do it 3-4 times per day. I feel like, at 53, that's excessive. Anyone else experiencing this?

 

[Macke]

I know I'm not the only hypersexual guy here. I've been hypersexual pretty much since the first time my abuser molested me at age 11. For many, it's hard to imagine a "hypersexual 11 year old," but that's exactly what happened to me. My abuser gave me tons of dry orgasms...and (obviously) wet/regular ones eventually. At 11, I was almost immediately hooked on this new-found feeling. I was astounded that people did such things with other people, but it kept me going back to him for more and more and more. Hypersexuality stuck with me, and for decades, I didn't connect the dots; I just thought I was a naturally horny person. Ever since the abuse, I've had a very strong sex drive, but it's getting more intense (worse?) as I age. I'm now in my 50s. There are days when I masturbate as many as 10 times throughout the day. Not every day, but sometimes. On average, I do it 3-4 times per day. I feel like, at 53, that's excessive. Anyone else experiencing this?

Same here 53 also

 

[LittleSteve]

I know the feeling. For me it was about 6 times a day. That’s finally changed for me taking a break helped but mainly right now sec is pretty ugly. One thing I did though was change to edging without orgasm. It helps me regulate my adhd. It was a change though and took some getting used to.

 

[Buster65]

Same here and I'm 60. I've been hypersexual since the first time my dad touched me. It has gotten more intense the older I get. I've heard the older you get things don’t work like they used to... not for me it's working better than ever!!

 

[GaD3!]

I know I'm not the only hypersexual guy here. I've been hypersexual pretty much since the first time my abuser molested me at age 11. For many, it's hard to imagine a "hypersexual 11 year old," but that's exactly what happened to me. My abuser gave me tons of dry orgasms...and (obviously) wet/regular ones eventually. At 11, I was almost immediately hooked on this new-found feeling. I was astounded that people did such things with other people, but it kept me going back to him for more and more and more. Hypersexuality stuck with me, and for decades, I didn't connect the dots; I just thought I was a naturally horny person. Ever since the abuse, I've had a very strong sex drive, but it's getting more intense (worse?) as I age. I'm now in my 50s. There are days when I masturbate as many as 10 times throughout the day. Not every day, but sometimes. On average, I do it 3-4 times per day. I feel like, at 53, that's excessive. Anyone else experiencing this?

I understand- my abuse started much earlier and I have been hypersexual ever since, at least now I understand as a young boy with sexual thoughts and desires and no understanding it was much more difficult. I was thinking about all of this earlier today, and again the thought I have shared in the past- one can't put their hand in the fire and not get burned, For us our hand was held in the fire and we have third degree burns.

 

[dcwofhs90]

A lot of the help on this site is simply knowing that you're not the only one. Thanks everyone for that!

I read somewhere that kids who experience orgasms before their minds are capable of properly processing the new feeling/sensation releases so much dopamine and other chemicals in the brain that it simply overwhelms their brains. It seems like maybe we're constantly subconsciously chasing that same feeling from when we were young, resulting in hypersexuality.

I've thought for a very long time that the dry orgasms I experienced with my abuser were more intense than an orgasm with ejaculation. If they really were more intense, I suppose that could contribute to an even more intense case of hypersexuality. I don't know, it's just a theory.

 

[Atypical]

I have been highly sexual since my early teens and all of my adult life. I masturbate often, even when in a sexual relationship.
I don't see any problem with either of these issues as long as they are not bothering us or anyone else -
I have never had a dry orgasm not sure what it is.

 

[smc1972]

knowing that you're not the only one.

Alone is something you are not and yes it is good to know that because i think we have felt alone for decades.

I was hypersexual as a child into adulthood. Was and is a cooping mechanism. The past couple months has been the least sexual in over 40 yeas but it is due to all the stuff going on in my life. I will admit i do not like not having that outlet.

 

[Maleelder]

I know I'm not the only hypersexual guy here. I've been hypersexual pretty much since the first time my abuser molested me at age 11. For many, it's hard to imagine a "hypersexual 11 year old," but that's exactly what happened to me. My abuser gave me tons of dry orgasms...and (obviously) wet/regular ones eventually. At 11, I was almost immediately hooked on this new-found feeling. I was astounded that people did such things with other people, but it kept me going back to him for more and more and more. Hypersexuality stuck with me, and for decades, I didn't connect the dots; I just thought I was a naturally horny person. Ever since the abuse, I've had a very strong sex drive, but it's getting more intense (worse?) as I age. I'm now in my 50s. There are days when I masturbate as many as 10 times throughout the day. Not every day, but sometimes. On average, I do it 3-4 times per day. I feel like, at 53, that's excessive. Anyone else experiencing this?

I am now 66 but was sexually exposed to dry orgasms at a very young age and would masterbate numerous times a day and many different places whenever I had a chance. I often wondered if my friends did the same and would try to get the chance to explore with them as I was growing up. I have slowed my masterbation occurrences now but still at least once or twice a day. I understand.

 

[Georgie]

I have been highly sexual since my early teens and all of my adult life. I masturbate often, even when in a sexual relationship.
I don't see any problem with either of these issues as long as they are not bothering us or anyone else -
I have never had a dry orgasm not sure what it is.

A dry orgasm is one without emission of semen.

 

[daveHello]

I can go from 2 weeks of not masturbating then to a period of time when it's 7-8 times in quick succession over 2-3 hours and that can go on for many days. I try to avoid those stints but the memories just build up until I'm irreversibly horny.

 

[dcwofhs90]

A dry orgasm is one without emission of semen.

My abuser gave me hundreds of them before I hit puberty. It was quite a surprise when I ejaculated for the first time, because no one (including my abuser) told me that it was going to happen.

 

[KevinGKG]

Yes- I went through a period a few years ago where it was obsessive. What was more disruptive was my pursuit of sex with people in the hopes of re-enactment. I sought out older couples, usually. Most were harmless enough but there were a few that were riskier for different reasons. The last couple - after I broke out of that loop I started looking for therapy and changes in my outlook and behavior. The last couple was quite good sex- amazing sometimes but bad in terms of the dynamic and other factors.

 

[dcwofhs90]

What was more disruptive was my pursuit of sex with people in the hopes of re-enactment. I sought out older couples, usually. Most were harmless enough but there were a few that were riskier for different reasons.

That was me throughout a decent portion of my 20s; I was out in the bars 5-6 times a week most weeks in search of "that perfect older man" to reenact the CSA.

For me, some were harmless, but the vast majority of them wanted to top me bare. And I was more than willing, because feeling an ejaculation inside me was yet another element of my CSA that I absolutely loved. Talk about risky! It's amazing how I never caught anything (other than crabs one time), because I went home with hundreds of men during that period of my life. And I'm not exaggerating when I say hundreds.

 

[GaD3!]

That was me throughout a decent portion of my 20s; I was out in the bars 5-6 times a week most weeks in search of "that perfect older man" to reenact the CSA.

For me, some were harmless, but the vast majority of them wanted to top me bare. And I was more than willing, because feeling an ejaculation inside me was yet another element of my CSA that I absolutely loved. Talk about risky! It's amazing how I never caught anything (other than crabs one time), because I went home with hundreds of men during that period of my life. And I'm not exaggerating when I say hundreds.di

Thankfully you did not contract anything more serious than crabs. Years ago I knew a gentleman who also was with hundreds. He told me he had lost all his friends who had done the same to disease, and he was the only one left.

 

[dcwofhs90]

Thankfully you did not contract anything more serious than crabs. Years ago I knew a gentleman who also was with hundreds. He told me he had lost all his friends who had done the same to disease, and he was the only one left.

In retrospect, believe me, I know how lucky I was. It was SO stupid of me to do that. But when we're young, many of us aren't known for making sound decisions.

 

[Coyotejack]

60 now and still edge at least daily. Usually at night trying to sleep or in the warm bed of the morning when I really should be asleep. I have always had far more sex drive than any of the women I've known. Masturbating once or twice a day usually. If I skipped it was usually for wanting to have some left to share with her that night, and if she wasn't interested then I was off to the bathroom once she fell asleep.

 

[Trev]

I am 38 and I consider myself hypersexual there are days that orgasm seems to be very invasive in my thinking and in my actions so you are not alone.

The early experiences before my body was ready to ejaculate did provide my brain with a path that caused some urges.

As a father of boys I know that some boys discover themselves early as well and discover these feelings that can also cause urges and habits.

So no you are not alone at all.

 

[dcwofhs90]

The early experiences before my body was ready to ejaculate did provide my brain with a path that caused some urges.

 

[MSUser2024]

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