He’s now open to sex and I’m not

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My husband is a survivor and has been going to therapy. He is healing. We’ve had a sexless marriage for probably 10 plus years. There hasn’t been much physical affection in our marriage. But now he’s starting to express more interest. The problem is that I’ve had to shut down and suppress that area so much (aside from taking care of my own sexual needs - which frankly I got tired of) that I don’t have desire anymore. And frankly, the lack of physical affection has really made me struggle with feeling attractive. And I don’t believe that I am.

 

[Duckie]

If you don't mind my wife would like to talk to you, she has her own account but i dont remember it. I will show this to her

 

[mykimber73]

My husband is a survivor and has been going to therapy. He is healing. We’ve had a sexless marriage for probably 10 plus years. There hasn’t been much physical affection in our marriage. But now he’s starting to express more interest. The problem is that I’ve had to shut down and suppress that area so much (aside from taking care of my own sexual needs - which frankly I got tired of) that I don’t have desire anymore. And frankly, the lack of physical affection has really made me struggle with feeling attractive. And I don’t believe that I am.

I did that for almost 10 years then there ws one day hecame of hte meds and was intrested in me again it took me awhileto figure out what i wanted and yes i wanmted the intamanc. we are starting out slow a few days a week of being together and holding each other and then having actual intercore so it does come back its just slow. take it easy on yourself

 

[P1nky]

My husband is a survivor and has been going to therapy. He is healing. We’ve had a sexless marriage for probably 10 plus years. There hasn’t been much physical affection in our marriage. But now he’s starting to express more interest. The problem is that I’ve had to shut down and suppress that area so much (aside from taking care of my own sexual needs - which frankly I got tired of) that I don’t have desire anymore. And frankly, the lack of physical affection has really made me struggle with feeling attractive. And I don’t believe that I am.

My wife is still working through a similar thing. Her situation has been exacerbated by the impact of a trial hormonal implant to control her menstrual issues about 15 years ago.
I would suggest that you take some time to have a proper open discussion with your husband. We have been a lot more honest and open with each other (although not more intimate) since doing that. I am more comfortable just having more physical contact, as she no longer feels that I am trying to pressure her, and she is more relaxed as a result. You may find your husband is similar to me, and while hopeful more will happen, will accept that it probably won't.
I wish you both all the best in getting through this.