Update From Introduction Post

Update From Introduction Post

GuyHidden

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Hello, all,

I am here to update those who were concerned about my confrontation last night. Thank you for expressing concern about my wellbeing. I am okay!

At the behest of a friend, I borrowed pepper gel and notified several people of where and when we were meeting up. Luckily, I did not need to use the pepper gel.

I said what I needed to say without being accusatory (even though I believe that he deserves people being accusatory about the topic). His response was "I was stupid back then and didn't use my brain as much." That was about it on the topic. We talked a bit outside of that, but he didn't know what to say, as he said. His response was better than denial or downplaying what happened, though going into it I hoped for an apology. I don't know why I expected that, that was foolish of me.

Thank you for such a warm welcome thus far- I am happy to have found this community.

- Guy
 
I’m glad you’re ok first of all! It’s amazing to me you had the balls to do this! I haven’t… can’t imagine ever doing it. You def should feel proud of yourself! Thanks for letting us know you are ok :)
 
You had a right to expect an apology, but he was suddenly confronted about shameful behavior. He may think about it, and an apology may be coming later. I'm happy you did what you did. Relieving yourself of a burden can be liberating.
 
I confronted my abuser during our last and final meeting. It was almost a religious experience. For those on here, you probably know the feeling even I fail to fully articulate it. Still have work to do but that 10 minute conversation was a life changer.
 
Hello, all,

I am here to update those who were concerned about my confrontation last night. Thank you for expressing concern about my wellbeing. I am okay!

At the behest of a friend, I borrowed pepper gel and notified several people of where and when we were meeting up. Luckily, I did not need to use the pepper gel.

I said what I needed to say without being accusatory (even though I believe that he deserves people being accusatory about the topic). His response was "I was stupid back then and didn't use my brain as much." That was about it on the topic. We talked a bit outside of that, but he didn't know what to say, as he said. His response was better than denial or downplaying what happened, though going into it I hoped for an apology. I don't know why I expected that, that was foolish of me.

Thank you for such a warm welcome thus far- I am happy to have found this community.

- Guy
You where heard @GuyHidden here if I can help with anything
 
Thank you all for your responses and support, I definitely feel heard in a way I don't always feel in real life. I told a childhood family friend (who has known me since I was six or seven) who happened to make friends with this guy a couple of months ago about what he did and she didn't have a very supportive response. I feel so much better speaking after keeping silent for so long, that is true, and both the conversation and this community has helped with that. Thank you again :)
 
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