Sharing with family sucks

Sharing with family sucks

Thaelyrah

Registrant
This has been a hell of a few weeks, let alone months, let alone year :)

I'm writing a letter to my younger, adopted brother who hasn't spoken to any of us in over a decade. A part of what I wrote was:

" I've already had our two oldest siblings destroy me. ---- told me I wasn't someone “worth knowing.”---- called me a cunt and threatened to sick a lawyer on me. ----, for her part, told me that she didn't want to hear anything about this unless it was “concrete.”"

I "came out" in August and called out my father for raping me as a kid.

I've been a pariah ever since. My older sister immediately responded to me via text and told me that, because I had been so up front in sending out the letter, I was a person who was "not worth knowing."

My other sister will only talk to me about "other" things. My older brother took it the hardest.

He read it once and was so angry that he assumed I was talking about him. I literally called out our father and no one else. I never mentioned him, but he read a sentence I wrote meaning that there was history of sexual abuse in the family and assumed I was blaming him and my siblings.

The conversation went as expected, lol ... :) It also makes me wonder about him.

I brought everything I could to bear in this moment. I put myself out on the line and said, bring it. Well, it came :)

Anyone else in this particularly painful moment?
 
No, fortunately I didn't, but your family's reaction makes me suspicious. They may have known of the abuse and said/did nothing and are now reminded of their enabling bringing forth guilt on their part, or they may have been abused as well and your raising the issue caused a bad reaction because of bad memories. Either way, it's not your fault.
 
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