how did you respond after your abuse? in terms of libido (hypersexual/sex repulsed)..

[bedhead]

hello. i just was curious to see how others have responded after their abuse, in terms of libido. whether you became hypersexual as a trauma response and how it has impacted you. or whether you became sex repulsed and how that has impacted you. or if it is a mix of the both.

 

[Gomers]

As a boy I was pretty hyper sexual. After the rape I became more fixated but also it was laced with utter disgust that I had those sexual thoughts and actions. But it don’t stop me from craving.

As an adult I go through long periods of low labido with no real interest in sex then it’s like boom, as though all that period I have just stored it up and the cravings and intrusive thoughts hit hard.
This last 18months though therapy I have learnt that this is directly related to the abuse and I have a lot of work to try gain some form of normality.

 

[Kintsugi]

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[LittleSteve]

Mine was hypersexuality as a child. I was very sexually attracted to other guys my own age for example what I was in junior high and high school three other boys and I would have sex twice a day on the bus every day I would masturbate anywhere from 4 to 6 times a day as an adult I had sex with over 2000 guys. I worked across from an adult bookstore that had booths in the back with videos and how I go over in the morning on my break and usually have sex with at least a couple guys after lunch I would go over again for another round and then my afternoon break I’d go over so yeah very hypersexual

 

[Trev]

Very much hyper sexuality as a child an early awakening with boys older than me at 9, then another one with a man from 13 to 15. These incidents left me very much sexually hungary, even in my marriage, my appetite for sex was hyper.

 

[dcwofhs90]

This one is easy... My abuser pretty much immediately turned me into a hypersexual boy at 11. One day I was a naive, innocent kid, and the next day, I was a sex addict. Then, throughout my 20s, I spent a great deal of time in the bars looking for older men so I could reenact the abuse. And now in my 50s, I remain hypersexual. As I've posted before, sometimes I can't have enough orgasms.

 

[Trev]

They now say that having at least 21 orgasms a month helps in the prevention of prostate cancer. I am just wondering if scientist ever thought about studying guys like us who are hyper sexual because if 21 a month helps in prevention I maybe having so many that I could cure it.

 

[Kintsugi]

They now say that having at least 21 orgasms a month helps in the prevention of prostate cancer. I am just wondering if scientist ever thought about studying guys like us who are hyper sexual because if 21 a month helps in prevention I maybe having so many that I could cure it.

 

[dcwofhs90]

They now say that having at least 21 orgasms a month helps in the prevention of prostate cancer. I am just wondering if scientist ever thought about studying guys like us who are hyper sexual because if 21 a month helps in prevention I maybe having so many that I could cure it.

That's probably my weekly average, if not more than that...

 

[Trev]

That's probably my weekly average, if not more than that...

Same

 

[RyanW1976]

I'd have to place myself in a catagory of indulging myself more but maybe hyper sexual. I acted out with three young friends that I feel was a direct result of being exposed to sex so young. I masturbated often from prepuberty on. I don't know if I did it more often than any other teenage boy. I looked at gay porn magazines and heterosexual porn too. The abuse did not trun me off to sex it had the opposite affect.

 

[Kintsugi]

It’s reassuring that the groups prostate risk factors have been mitigated. Thanks for all the hard work!

 

[nerograves]

I guess a mix of both for me. From after the abuse to suppressing it for years and then remembering it partially in my twenties, I know I was repulsed to sex. But I realized in my preteens that if someone initiated a sex act on me, I'd still think and feel repulsed but just go along with it, and my libido would suddenly shoot up to like 100%.

I realized this after a couple dreams I had of someone initiating a sex act on me, and I just went along with it. That and after I got groped at 17 a couple times IRL, I'd avoid the person but then not mind it. I actually thought of just sleeping around for money sometimes. Sex and arousal feel mechanical to me. I fully engage in the act but detach all emotion during and only get emotions leading up to and after sex or arousal. It's confusing, as if my mind and body are in conflict.

 

[nerograves]

As an adult I go through long periods of low labido with no real interest in sex then it’s like boom, as though all that period I have just stored it up and the cravings and intrusive thoughts hit hard.

Exactly, I get that feeling too. I have a long time of low libido and then it just rockets up to times 100. And the intrusive thoughts come like a tidal wave. It's wild how it happens so fast.

 

[GaD3!]

My abuse started very early in life, so I don't know any before abuse time. I was always hypersexual, as a child, thoughts, feelings, desires etc. at a very young age. I started puberty at age 8, so the hormones kicked in early. There was acting out with other kids and much shame and guilt along with confusion. Things a bit better as an adult.

 

[dcwofhs90]

I remember being in 6th grade, rubbing my erection against the bottom side of my desk in class thinking about my abuser. How fucked up is that? Mrs Huber had no idea what was going through my little mind...

 

[headabovewater]

My abuse started at around 9yrs old and continued until I was 18. It certainly created a hypersexual experience with masturbation up to 4 times a day and a lot of "deviant" behavior for a kid. And according to my therapist, that is a completely normal response to it.

 

[GaD3!]

And according to my therapist, that is a completely normal response to it.

Yes, quite true.

 

[Jack1]

My abuse started when I was almost four years old. Between age six to eleven my father was trafficking me and I learned to enjoy sex . From eleven to almost fourteen my brother was sexually abusing me, often multiple times a day and I wanted to have as much sex as possible. I was addicted to it by then. When he suddenly quit at fourteen I shut down and didn't even want to think about sex. That lasted til I was about twenty-one and I became hyper sexual.

 

[TJ jeff]

At 4 years old I was having whole body shaking dry orgasms given to me by an uncle who would not stop sometimes until he'd gotten multiple orgasms out of me - it lead me to be extremely hypersexual - masturbating up to 30 times a day in my teens - even my time in the military didn't slow me down much - still needed to "drain" regularly (at least weekly) till age 52

Prostate removal due to cancer last year killed the hypersexuality - sure, the mind still wants to - but the thing is just dead - which leads to major sexual frustration