Doing the right thing??

[JC1]

Im not sure if what i am considering is the right thing to do or if it will make matters worse. Most you you know that my older brother was my abuser over a period of more than seven years, from age 7 to about 14. And in addition to his personal abuse, he made me available to others. So there is no love lost when it comes to him.
But recently I have been thinking about his two children, both of whom are in their fifties. He abandoned them early on. I’ve recently found them and gotten some information about them. And, i am toying with the idea of getting in touch. Not for his sake, but for theirs. From what i have seen, they both have had difficult lives. Never married and live together. I am not sure that it is the right thing to do, but i do know that they had no part in what happened to me. So many years have passed, i have no idea hope they might react. But if just one good thing could come out of so much hurt and trauma, maybe it would be worth reaching out to them.

 

[Georgie]

I endorse your seeking them out. If they suffered the same as you, you have a greater network. Also, you may learn more about your brother.

 

[GaD3!]

But if just one good thing could come out of so much hurt and trauma, maybe it would be worth reaching out to them.

I think it would be. It is at least worth a try. You are coming from a place of kindness. All they can do is choose not to interact with you. For what ever it is worth you are their uncle. They may be be happy to hear from you (or not) but you won't know unless you reach out Your heart is in the right place.

For me family is very important so that certainly influences my views on this. Take care.

 

[dcwofhs90]

I support you reaching out to them. You can always walk away if it doesn't work out. I will echo @Georgie comments...it may expand your network.

 

[WeDeservedBetter]

Follow your heart. Try to approach this with no expectations. Since you're approaching this from a sincere and caring place everything should be fine no matter the outcome. Wish you the best. Take care.