Unresolved, irrational guilt
crisispoint
Registrant
I guess it's the Catholic in me. Guilt, whether deserved or no, dominates my life.
I still feel pangs of guilt, of responsability about my abuse and rapes, both as a child and as an adult. Not my fault, I know, and I believe that, but some days, man, it's hard to deal with.
And, while going through my old PM's, I found an old one from our late brother, Jay M.
God.
It hurt. It still hurts, and probably always will.
It's not my responsability, but I feel sometimes that if I could've reached him, said the one more "right" thing, he'd still be here. That he wouldn't have committed suicide. I feel like I failed still, and it's not my fault. I still feel like it is, though.
*sigh*
I know, you guys have told me, that I matter, that I make sense and I've made a difference here. My therapist tells me I do good work as a volunteer and an ESL instructor, but I still feel it isn't enough. That as long as I fail in some way, that I'm a loser, that I always will be a loser.
Will I?
I don't know, but I do know this. I make mistakes. I'm human. However, the mistakes aren't the sum total of who I am.
I'm flawed. I'm a good person, though. I don't go out to hurt people willingly. I try to help people. I try to do the right thing. I screw up, sure, but hopefully, the only person I hurt through that is me and I learn something through it.
Funny, I just read an old issue of "Ultimate Spider-man" (the new relaunch of the character) and Nick Fury said something that I try to keep in my head every day. "At the end of the day, ask yourself, 'did I do something good today?' And if the answer is yes, good. And if the anser is no, well, do better tomorrow."
Words to live by.
Peace and love,
Scot
I still feel pangs of guilt, of responsability about my abuse and rapes, both as a child and as an adult. Not my fault, I know, and I believe that, but some days, man, it's hard to deal with.
And, while going through my old PM's, I found an old one from our late brother, Jay M.
God.
It hurt. It still hurts, and probably always will.
It's not my responsability, but I feel sometimes that if I could've reached him, said the one more "right" thing, he'd still be here. That he wouldn't have committed suicide. I feel like I failed still, and it's not my fault. I still feel like it is, though.
*sigh*
I know, you guys have told me, that I matter, that I make sense and I've made a difference here. My therapist tells me I do good work as a volunteer and an ESL instructor, but I still feel it isn't enough. That as long as I fail in some way, that I'm a loser, that I always will be a loser.
Will I?
I don't know, but I do know this. I make mistakes. I'm human. However, the mistakes aren't the sum total of who I am.
I'm flawed. I'm a good person, though. I don't go out to hurt people willingly. I try to help people. I try to do the right thing. I screw up, sure, but hopefully, the only person I hurt through that is me and I learn something through it.
Funny, I just read an old issue of "Ultimate Spider-man" (the new relaunch of the character) and Nick Fury said something that I try to keep in my head every day. "At the end of the day, ask yourself, 'did I do something good today?' And if the answer is yes, good. And if the anser is no, well, do better tomorrow."
Words to live by.
Peace and love,
Scot