A memory came back last night

[dcwofhs90]

So I was at my next door neighbor's last night and he brought out the newspaper and started talking about the comics section and all the ones that he used to like reading. That triggered a memory for me....my abuser always liked to talk about Ziggy that day. He loved that comic. Maybe he talked about it with me because I was the paperboy at the time. I grew to love Ziggy too, and I can only assume that it's because of his influence.

I kinda feel like a bonehead now because I texted him when I got home and told him about how my abuser loved Ziggy and how the memory came back. Now he feels bad because he thinks he triggered the memory for me. I haven't seen the comics in decades, so seeing them did cause it.

But I just should've kept it to myself. Ugh...

 

[wolfbane]

But I just should've kept it to myself. Ugh...

Causing someone else's discomfort is something I've punished myself for plenty of times. I'm still working on giving myself a little grace in realizing they may understand. Hope that's the case with you.

 

[dcwofhs90]

Causing someone else's discomfort is something I've punished myself for plenty of times. I'm still working on giving myself a little grace in realizing they may understand. Hope that's the case with you.

We've talked since I posted this. I told him that I wasn't upset just because this memory resurfaced, so I think we're good now. Still wish I would've just kept it to myself, because in retrospect it really wasn't that big of a deal.

 

[GaD3!]

I know how you feel. I have done the same type of thing at times and then think to myself, why did you say that? Then the self condemnation revs up. I am glad you were able to talk with your friend about this.

 

[dcwofhs90]

I know how you feel. I have done the same type of thing at times and then think to myself, why did you say that? Then the self condemnation revs up. I am glad you were able to talk with your friend about this.

I'm fortunate that he's incredibly understanding. Plus, ever since I told him about the CSA, he's made a real effort to understand it.

 

[Kintsugi]

You are blessed to have a neighbor who cares enough about you that he is pushing into such an uncomfortable subject matter.

 

[Kintsugi]

You are blessed to have a neighbor who cares enough about you that he is pushing into such an uncomfortable subject matter.

 

[dcwofhs90]

You are blessed to have a neighbor who cares enough about you that he is pushing into such an uncomfortable subject matter.

Believe me, I completely understand how lucky I am to have him in my life! He's just simply an awesome human.