Living with a Borderline

[NeedCrain]

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this. Years ago when my marriage was falling apart I went to see a therapist. Not for what happen to me all those years ago but to try save my marriage. My therapist suspected that my ex may have been suffering from borderline personality disorder. I immediately began to research all I could on it and could see many of the characteristics in my wife. One in particular was where they will always have one person in their life that they felt were evil and that evil person changes from time to time. For many years that person was me. Fast forward 15+ years and that person is no longer me and we are actually sorta friends and will help each other out with different things. Heck I even picked her and her live-in boyfriend up at the airport once to help her out. I kinda feel bad for him as I suspect he may be her current evil one and I have to admit he’s a pretty decent guy.

 

[Toad]

One in particular was where they will always have one person in their life that they felt were evil and that evil person changes from time to time

My mom is borderline

I am just coming to terms with this aspect of my childhood apart from the Sexual Abuse.

My sister recently told me that she had to have a number of therapy sessions about how our mom would treat me.

 

[NeedCrain]

The best book I found on borderline was called “Walking on Eggshells” which is describes the way you feel when you life with one.

 

[Georgie]

My mom is borderline

I am just coming to terms with this aspect of my childhood apart from the Sexual Abuse.

My sister recently told me that she had to have a number of therapy sessions about how our mom would treat me.

The only times I saw my father yell at my mother was when he witnessed her mistreatment of me (his work schedule caused him to miss much of it). Since I was the youngest child, I didn't see much of her mistreatment of my siblings, but I did see some. I got it the worst because I was an accident, I had the personality most clashing with hers, and I had undiagnosed ASD. She also didn't want to hear of problems ("deal with it yourself") and automatically believed authority figures.