Kurt,
I think a lot of what you are feeling is typical of survivors who are just beginning in recovery. As you allow yourself to begin to really face what happened, it is all so overwhelming. Things are hitting you from every side, and there doesn't seem to be any answer. It's a whirlwind of pain, as you say; it all hurts so bad and it won't stop.
I remember the feeling that I needed to keep washing myself, but of course that is just the feeling of being so polluted by what has happened.
I also remember wishing it would all just go away, but unfortunately bro that isn't the way it works. I recall you saying a few days ago that you wish you hadn't opened this can of worms, but my answer here would be hey, it was already open and that's why you came here.
I know it's so hard Kurt. In fact it will probably be the hardest thing you have ever done. But you are getting a good start! And without wasting years of your life in denial, alcohol, drugs, or whatever. You HAVE made the right decision.
There is so much to be said to you, but here let me just assure you that for right now the most important thing is to keep talking. Whatever it is, say it! Whatever you feel, let it out! A lot of our feelings about the abuse are not accurate, but they ARE our feelings and we need to talk about them. It's a way of saying hey, my hurt is important, and I am important too. Please talk to me and help me.
Everyone here has been there bro...EVERYONE. You aren't a lost cause, and we will all be here to help you along.
Much love,
Larry