Young women?

[anonDK]

Hey guys,

I have noticed that my shame seems to have lifted or at least diminished, when in the company of young women. My usual response when around young women (teenagers) is excessive shame and thus, body tension, in order NOT to feel it. But I've noticed that lately, when for instance getting served by young women at gas station, shops etc., the shame is simply not there. It's like, I don't get the usual feeling, that they look at me as I'm a total freak, a weirdo.

This is good news to me. I may be able to do a little innocent flirtation, without really expecting anything in return, but just to try it out!

Still, the thought of going even further with out, like sex, and I blank out. So that's not something to be explored right now, I'm sure ..

 

[Chris4TheMill]

That's great that you are seeing progress, anonDK.
It always feels good when I can tell that any distressing emotions are getting less and less intense.
I hope that progress continues for you in the days ahead.

 

[SubtleStuff]

Hi AnonDK,

This is an area around which I feel much fear. Young women can certainly be attractive to me but unlikely to be helpful in my healing process. I've also had experiences of being treated in ways that were very hurtful by young women who lived nearby (i.e. framed as a pervert). I sense that many women around here are very angry at (the older women) and/or fearful of (the younger women) men and that anger/fear can come out in the strangest ways.

The community where I live is very conservative. Connections between older men and young women are viewed with a great deal of suspicion. You may not experience that so much in Denmark, but it's pretty intense around here.

When I feel attracted to a young woman, I tend to breathe into it and bless myself that I'm still capable of feeling attracted to a beautiful woman and I keep on walking. Making efforts to connect is simply a recipe for a high stress situation.

Congratulations for coming to peace with your own feelings.

S