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It seemed an opportunity to stick up for yourself TylerZ and a good story about doing that. Being randomly judged is extraordinarily problematic for me and triggers me, and in the same situation, if I could remain calm, I would do the same. My fu trigger would be very strong, but that's something I need to work on.
Society has a lot of strange input.
Society has a lot of strange input.
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DanielQ432
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Tyler, the thing is, she was a completely insensitive asshole, who has no clue about the verbal sewage coming out of her mouth. Anyone with any compassion would never say something like that. Two wrongs don't make a right.
However, just something I want you to know about this event -- you could NOT have handled that better. Absolutely a perfect way to tell that bi'otch that she better think before she opens her mouth. Good job, even though I know it hurts. YOUR dignity shines through.
Being able to just say it to another person, to speak your truth, is a really important step that all of us have to go through.
EDITED TO ADD: Tyler, I've mentioned this before, you are MUCH younger than most of us here - it seems like the majority are in their 50s or 60s before this catches up to them, and often we feel it's "too late" to reclaim our lives. You are a VERY young man, although you have suffered enough for a multitude of lifetimes. You, of anyone I've met on this site, have the potential to really take back your power and knock it out of the park when it comes to having the life you deserve that may feel impossible or "stolen" at this time. I can say with 1000% honestly that it's NOT going to be easy, it's going to damned hard, but you can do it. And everyone here is rooting for you and will do anything we can to support you through this, not just the near future, where you will have to go through the legal process to see justice done, but longer-term as you rework your life to escape the pain, the betrayal of trust, and re-establish a firm sense of self, secure with who you are and how you live.
I don't even know what sport you play, and I don't need to know - don't EVER reveal anything online which could compromise your real-world ID - but -- whatever the sport, I bet you dominate and I bet your team has a real star in you.
However, just something I want you to know about this event -- you could NOT have handled that better. Absolutely a perfect way to tell that bi'otch that she better think before she opens her mouth. Good job, even though I know it hurts. YOUR dignity shines through.
Being able to just say it to another person, to speak your truth, is a really important step that all of us have to go through.
EDITED TO ADD: Tyler, I've mentioned this before, you are MUCH younger than most of us here - it seems like the majority are in their 50s or 60s before this catches up to them, and often we feel it's "too late" to reclaim our lives. You are a VERY young man, although you have suffered enough for a multitude of lifetimes. You, of anyone I've met on this site, have the potential to really take back your power and knock it out of the park when it comes to having the life you deserve that may feel impossible or "stolen" at this time. I can say with 1000% honestly that it's NOT going to be easy, it's going to damned hard, but you can do it. And everyone here is rooting for you and will do anything we can to support you through this, not just the near future, where you will have to go through the legal process to see justice done, but longer-term as you rework your life to escape the pain, the betrayal of trust, and re-establish a firm sense of self, secure with who you are and how you live.
I don't even know what sport you play, and I don't need to know - don't EVER reveal anything online which could compromise your real-world ID - but -- whatever the sport, I bet you dominate and I bet your team has a real star in you.
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Chris4TheMill
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I agree with Daniel and Ceremony - that was a horrible thing that she did and said to you, but you handled it well.
You stood up for your self and didn't allow her to continue with her sickening rant.
She is probably reacting to something in her own life but that does not give her any excuse to be such a horrible witch.
You did nothing wrong by smiling at a nice-looking girl. I hope the "friend" heard what you said and will go and do some major soul-searching - provided she has one.
You stood up for your self and didn't allow her to continue with her sickening rant.
She is probably reacting to something in her own life but that does not give her any excuse to be such a horrible witch.
You did nothing wrong by smiling at a nice-looking girl. I hope the "friend" heard what you said and will go and do some major soul-searching - provided she has one.
DanielQ432
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Well, I really love the idea of a "men's only" forum because I can feel free to vent about "radical feminists". I'm NOT sexist, really, I'm not, I worked for a female boss for almost 20 years at a prior company/prior life/different career, and hey, I am NOT ashamed to say I voted for Hillary because I get WAY better insurance under ACA than I ever did - it pays for therapy, along with a lot of other things.
So, there is this strain of thought among radical feminists that says "if a man does it, it's wrong" "all men are pigs" "never trust a man ever" and the really bad stuff, like what Tyler heard from her - I've heard worse, even, I think the ultimate is "ALL men are rapists given the opportunity".
BITCH - only word for someone like that. Only an extremely ignorant person who has NOT thought things through at all would say things like that. And sure, hey, we all have pain, God knows the brotherhood here has had far more than our fair share - but to turn that pain into an anger that lashes out at the innocent is wrong on every level, morally, psychologically, socially.
I know myself, despite EVERYTHING I have gone through. Rapist, oh, HELL NO! I am a coward, that is for damned sure - afraid of almost anything and everything. I freely admit I'm sexually frustrated in that I haven't had a date not involving my right hand and a bottle of lube in 20 years. I spend a lot of time riding bicycles around Metro XXXXXXXXXX at weird hours of the night. If I happened upon a situation where a woman (or child, or man for that matter, or a dog - I love dogs!) were being attacked, sexually or otherwise, I know myself well enough to know I would intervene at risk of my own life. I may be a coward, but I have enough adrenalin and testosterone in my body to act on instinct, and I know right from wrong, and it sure as Hell isn't raping anyone, or hurting anyone.
So, yeah, these "radical feminists" actually just set back their own cause by being narrow minded bitches. They can't seem to understand that you don't elevate one group or gender by suppressing another one.
Like I said all of my life about my father, and others like him, and also about myself - two kinds of energy in the universe, positive and negative, good and bad, just and evil, light or darkness, perhaps I think "Creator" and "Destroyer" are good ways to think of it. We have Free Will, we can choose - pick one - I know which side of that divide I stand on, no matter how awful I feel about myself, I have the peace of knowing I strive to move towards the light, to stand on the good side of the equation, to try to tap into and use the Creator energy to make the Universe, which can be a wondrous place but also a damned Fucking miserable place, a little more wondrous and a little less miserable.
Tyler, and all, when you are confronted with people like that, whether they're radical feminists, gay-bashers, race-haters, whatever, remember that they are destroyers, they are wrong. Walk away, don't let them get under your skin, and remember, on our worst, worst, worst days, we all here are a million times better than they ever were.
So, there is this strain of thought among radical feminists that says "if a man does it, it's wrong" "all men are pigs" "never trust a man ever" and the really bad stuff, like what Tyler heard from her - I've heard worse, even, I think the ultimate is "ALL men are rapists given the opportunity".
BITCH - only word for someone like that. Only an extremely ignorant person who has NOT thought things through at all would say things like that. And sure, hey, we all have pain, God knows the brotherhood here has had far more than our fair share - but to turn that pain into an anger that lashes out at the innocent is wrong on every level, morally, psychologically, socially.
I know myself, despite EVERYTHING I have gone through. Rapist, oh, HELL NO! I am a coward, that is for damned sure - afraid of almost anything and everything. I freely admit I'm sexually frustrated in that I haven't had a date not involving my right hand and a bottle of lube in 20 years. I spend a lot of time riding bicycles around Metro XXXXXXXXXX at weird hours of the night. If I happened upon a situation where a woman (or child, or man for that matter, or a dog - I love dogs!) were being attacked, sexually or otherwise, I know myself well enough to know I would intervene at risk of my own life. I may be a coward, but I have enough adrenalin and testosterone in my body to act on instinct, and I know right from wrong, and it sure as Hell isn't raping anyone, or hurting anyone.
So, yeah, these "radical feminists" actually just set back their own cause by being narrow minded bitches. They can't seem to understand that you don't elevate one group or gender by suppressing another one.
Like I said all of my life about my father, and others like him, and also about myself - two kinds of energy in the universe, positive and negative, good and bad, just and evil, light or darkness, perhaps I think "Creator" and "Destroyer" are good ways to think of it. We have Free Will, we can choose - pick one - I know which side of that divide I stand on, no matter how awful I feel about myself, I have the peace of knowing I strive to move towards the light, to stand on the good side of the equation, to try to tap into and use the Creator energy to make the Universe, which can be a wondrous place but also a damned Fucking miserable place, a little more wondrous and a little less miserable.
Tyler, and all, when you are confronted with people like that, whether they're radical feminists, gay-bashers, race-haters, whatever, remember that they are destroyers, they are wrong. Walk away, don't let them get under your skin, and remember, on our worst, worst, worst days, we all here are a million times better than they ever were.
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greenwizard
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She sounds a lot like the woman who raped me. That bitch spewed much similar crap and didn't see a damn thing wrong with what she did to me because, hey, I'm a man and just want sex anyway! I agree, women like that hurt their own cause. I'm a big supporter of equality... true equality, and man bashers can just go to hell.
Try not to let her bother you too much. Women like that are screwed in the head, and I don't think most are like that. There is nothing wrong with smiling at a pretty girl.
Try not to let her bother you too much. Women like that are screwed in the head, and I don't think most are like that. There is nothing wrong with smiling at a pretty girl.
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