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Tyler, it is NOT your fault! Just take deep breaths. It may be hard, but you're not a child now. Please find it within yourself to tell him to fuck off.
To emphasize what greenwizard said
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT
Though sometime you may feel like it is, and though long ago your father may have given tacit approval when he didn't protect you as he should have, please don't give in to what so often happens. Too many abused children assume they must have done something wrong else why would this tragedy come on them. And they carry this guilt and shame as they grow up.
You're stronger than you think. You can do this thing.
I'm sorry this has caused such anxiety but you can say NO. Many guys on here have been there, and were able to gather all their strength to resist. I join the others here who have your back, realizing it's not easy, but knowing you can.
Hang in there.
CJ
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT
Though sometime you may feel like it is, and though long ago your father may have given tacit approval when he didn't protect you as he should have, please don't give in to what so often happens. Too many abused children assume they must have done something wrong else why would this tragedy come on them. And they carry this guilt and shame as they grow up.
You're stronger than you think. You can do this thing.
I'm sorry this has caused such anxiety but you can say NO. Many guys on here have been there, and were able to gather all their strength to resist. I join the others here who have your back, realizing it's not easy, but knowing you can.
Hang in there.
CJ
Oh, Tyler - Please know, brother, we're here for you. We'll stand with you, walk with you and listen to you.
Are you able to leave wherever you are while this individual is there? Do you have an escape plan? Do you have someone to call or is someone available to just be hanging around when this person is there? Protect yourself, you deserve it. We're here.
Are you able to leave wherever you are while this individual is there? Do you have an escape plan? Do you have someone to call or is someone available to just be hanging around when this person is there? Protect yourself, you deserve it. We're here.
TylerZ,
It's not your fault.
I think it's coincidence he appeared, not you talking.
Keep talking!
Can you make yourself safe from him.
Is there anyone you can have with you at all times?
It be great if they knew what they were protecting you from, but they don't have to.
It's not your fault.
I think it's coincidence he appeared, not you talking.
Keep talking!
Can you make yourself safe from him.
Is there anyone you can have with you at all times?
It be great if they knew what they were protecting you from, but they don't have to.
Hi TylerZ, I think it's more likely a coincidence too. It's so important you know that no one here will judge you. Everyone knows it's not your fault, and hope you will allow that encouragement to be heard? The panic and anxiety obviously need your attention, belly breathing at a level pace and grounding skills. Therapists teach us these things for managing ptsd episodes. Everyone here has some level of it, and some very complex. We will talk it over, as you're able and hope with all our hearts for your wellbeing!
Peace, love and hope TylerZ
your MS brother, Ceremony
Peace, love and hope TylerZ
your MS brother, Ceremony
It's not Ok, because you're not happy, and it's sad, and WE are not judging, we accept you with all that is you.
There is understanding and empathy here like no other. Love where outside in our own worlds, we face the troubles that move in our midst. You are validated and believed, and therefore understood.
It's not your fault. We know why these things happen, and accept the burden your carrying. We weep with you.
There is understanding and empathy here like no other. Love where outside in our own worlds, we face the troubles that move in our midst. You are validated and believed, and therefore understood.
It's not your fault. We know why these things happen, and accept the burden your carrying. We weep with you.
Yet, I do get it, and your self recrimination, I get that too.
And still, you're loved.
I'm really sorry about that uncle. He's not earned the title, and you are going through the emotions among brothers who have had the same emotions. Many here know the exact feelings of shame and guilt you're going through. My calm is hope you can grab a spark of compassion from it for yourself. My compassion isn't as much pity as it is totally knowing the feelings you're exhibiting and the dire pain you're having.
So, TylerZ, what comfort you'll need is here, and what spark of hope you can gain to slowly know you're discussion here is valid, know you're hugged by a community of men who accept you for all of it.
Do personal messaging because of your doubt and perception of concern about open posts. Know that, or chat is a way to personal message, and only the two discussing will ever see it.
Ok brother, we care, I care, and you're not alone dealing with the pain. This community, I, any, will share and help you endure.
And still, you're loved.
I'm really sorry about that uncle. He's not earned the title, and you are going through the emotions among brothers who have had the same emotions. Many here know the exact feelings of shame and guilt you're going through. My calm is hope you can grab a spark of compassion from it for yourself. My compassion isn't as much pity as it is totally knowing the feelings you're exhibiting and the dire pain you're having.
So, TylerZ, what comfort you'll need is here, and what spark of hope you can gain to slowly know you're discussion here is valid, know you're hugged by a community of men who accept you for all of it.
Do personal messaging because of your doubt and perception of concern about open posts. Know that, or chat is a way to personal message, and only the two discussing will ever see it.
Ok brother, we care, I care, and you're not alone dealing with the pain. This community, I, any, will share and help you endure.
motmcd
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Tyler, try, try, try to let go of the idea it's your fault. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! Thinking otherwise is hard. It's exhausting, and we fail many times when we try to think outside our learned, conditioned thought patterns, but keep trying. Little by little you'll get to that point when you just ignore your uncle.
Ask for help. I'll help in any way I can.
Ask for help. I'll help in any way I can.
Tyler -
Perhaps if you reach out to Covenant House, they can direct you to a more effective intervention than we can provide on a discussion board. These are a list of the Covenant House facilities. Call the one closest to you and explain what is happening. If they cannot directly help you, they may be able to refer you to an effective crisis intervention network.
If you are in any danger at all, it is perfectly appropriate to call the police (911).
Covenant House Alaska
755 A Street
Anchorage, AK 99501
(907) 272-1255
Covenant House New Jersey (Atlantic City)
929 Atlantic Avenue
Atlantic City, NJ 08401
(609) 348-4070
Covenant House California (Los Angeles)
1325 N. Western Avenue
Hollywood, CA 90027
(323) 461-3131
Covenant House New Orleans
611 North Rampart Street
New Orleans, LA 70112
(504) 584-1111
Covenant House California (Oakland/East Bay)
200 Harrison Street
Oakland, CA 94607
(510) 379-1010
Covenant House New York
460 West 41st Street
New York, NY 10036
(212) 613-0300
Covenant House Florida (Fort Lauderdale)
733 Breakers Avenue
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304
(954) 561-5559
Covenant House Pennsylvania
31 East Armat Street
Philadelphia, PA 19144
(215) 951-5411
Covenant House Florida (Orlando)
5931 East Colonial Drive
Orlando, FL 32801
(407) 482-0404
Covenant House Texas
1111 Lovett Blvd.
Houston, TX 77006
(713) 523-2231
Covenant House Georgia
1559 Johnson Rd. NW
Atlanta, GA 30318
(404) 589-0163
Covenant House Toronto
20 Gerard Street East
Toronto, ON M5B 2P3
(416) 598-4898
Covenant House Michigan
2959 Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd.
Detroit, MI 48208
(313) 463-2000
Covenant House Vancouver
575 Drake Street
Vancouver, British Columbia
Canada V6B4K8
(604) 685-5437
Covenant House Missouri
2727 North Kingshighway Boulevard
St. Louis, MO 63113
(314) 533-2241
Covenant House Washington D.C.
2001 Mississippi Avenue, SE
Washington, D.C. 20020
(202) 610-9600
Covenant House New Jersey (Newark)
330 Washington Street
Newark, NY 07102
(973) 621-8705
Perhaps if you reach out to Covenant House, they can direct you to a more effective intervention than we can provide on a discussion board. These are a list of the Covenant House facilities. Call the one closest to you and explain what is happening. If they cannot directly help you, they may be able to refer you to an effective crisis intervention network.
If you are in any danger at all, it is perfectly appropriate to call the police (911).
Covenant House Alaska
755 A Street
Anchorage, AK 99501
(907) 272-1255
Covenant House New Jersey (Atlantic City)
929 Atlantic Avenue
Atlantic City, NJ 08401
(609) 348-4070
Covenant House California (Los Angeles)
1325 N. Western Avenue
Hollywood, CA 90027
(323) 461-3131
Covenant House New Orleans
611 North Rampart Street
New Orleans, LA 70112
(504) 584-1111
Covenant House California (Oakland/East Bay)
200 Harrison Street
Oakland, CA 94607
(510) 379-1010
Covenant House New York
460 West 41st Street
New York, NY 10036
(212) 613-0300
Covenant House Florida (Fort Lauderdale)
733 Breakers Avenue
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304
(954) 561-5559
Covenant House Pennsylvania
31 East Armat Street
Philadelphia, PA 19144
(215) 951-5411
Covenant House Florida (Orlando)
5931 East Colonial Drive
Orlando, FL 32801
(407) 482-0404
Covenant House Texas
1111 Lovett Blvd.
Houston, TX 77006
(713) 523-2231
Covenant House Georgia
1559 Johnson Rd. NW
Atlanta, GA 30318
(404) 589-0163
Covenant House Toronto
20 Gerard Street East
Toronto, ON M5B 2P3
(416) 598-4898
Covenant House Michigan
2959 Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd.
Detroit, MI 48208
(313) 463-2000
Covenant House Vancouver
575 Drake Street
Vancouver, British Columbia
Canada V6B4K8
(604) 685-5437
Covenant House Missouri
2727 North Kingshighway Boulevard
St. Louis, MO 63113
(314) 533-2241
Covenant House Washington D.C.
2001 Mississippi Avenue, SE
Washington, D.C. 20020
(202) 610-9600
Covenant House New Jersey (Newark)
330 Washington Street
Newark, NY 07102
(973) 621-8705
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