Work finally but no time for T

Work finally but no time for T
M

Muldoon

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I finally got a job after 18 months of unemployment. It really feels good to be back working and bringing money into the family. I got a job at a local sign company so it is a job in my field of printing. It is a small shop, just the owner of the company and me. We work in an old carriage house in the back yard of his home. The pay isnt the greatest but I am learning lots of new things and there seems to be a further there for me, if I dont mess things up.

I have 3 new boys in my life, the owners sons 2,4 and 9 years old. I really enjoy the little time I get to spend with them and they have educated me so much about what I lost.

When I got the job 9 weeks ago I was feeling on top of the world and thought that I could get by without seeing my T anymore. I havent even had time to come here much any more. Bit by bit week by week I seem to be slipping back into that dark hole of depression. Just dont think that I can tell my boss about the SA and needing time off every two weeks to see my T. Things at my last job where going great until my CSA issue came out in the open. Just dont know.

My T is 100 mile away, so I need a half day off work and I dont want to change my T just to get one closer. Peter knows all my deep dark issues and I cant start over.

Right now I am just a normal human being at this time in the eyes of my boss but how will he look at me if he knows about the SA.
Tom
 
Hot Diggity Dog for you. Hey that is great news. Stick around a bit more ok

I am still having a go at Government.........
 
Glad to hear you got a job. I was out 11 months a few years back and then found a job. It was good to go back and earn money. It is so hard being out of work. August has been really hard for my business this year and this month so far has picked up. So glad to hear this area of your life is coming together.

Is your therapist able to work with your schedule a little? If they have been seeing you they may work with you some and if you haven't done so already, it might be something to ask. I also had one therapist that did a "phone" session with me which was different, but it really helped. Just make sure you take care of yourself.

Don
 
Hey Tom,

Congrats on the new job!

I have been without a steady paycheck for over 2 years now (I started my own business, which so far has made no money), so I know how difficult that can be.

As for the therapist, I feel like Don has good advice. I also did therapy by phone for a while after 9/11. My T was in Texas; I was in Brooklyn. It worked until something else could get worked out.

That awful feeling of the return of the depression is one of the worst I know of. I woke up today feeling like black despair had taken up residence in my bones.

I'm putting one step in front of the other; trying to take care of myself and not struggling with it too much. That seems to waste the energy I need to continue to be open to the solution whatever that will be.

I'm glad you posted about this today. It has helped me get some much needed perspective.

Thanks for helping me out. You are much appreciated here.

Thanks,
 
I once worked with a sign painter that told me that I could never have a job with him because I was left handed. But since I was his boss, his opinion didn't matter. Stroke it with focus. The hand is just a tool.

Aden
 
Congrats on the job, Tom.

Perhaps your therapist could make some adjustments, like setting a phone session or a weekend or evening session. Not unheard of.

In any case, good luck on the job.

Dan
 
Tom,

great news on finding a job, unemployment really sucks. A job really can take your mind away somewhat, especially if you enjoy it.

Can't you find an excuse to go to your T, tell your boss it's something else, and tell him you will work the hours another way.

it's sad that we even have to lie on this, bosses should have a duty, and maybe they do, to let you have time off. But we all know, that it is maybe not so good for him to know about it, not knowing the outcome.

Hope it all works out

ste
 
Congratulation on the job, I am glad that it is something in your field, and that you seem to be enjoying it.

I hope that in the future you will have time to get back to therapy, or can make arrangements with your therapist maybe for an 'off' time, like evening hours? I truly hope that your employer would be someone understanding about the abuse issue, but only you will know if and when you feel like discussing it with him. In the meantime, continued good luck with the job.

leosha
 
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