Words we hate now (feel free to add yours to the list)

Words we hate now (feel free to add yours to the list)
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I thought it would be a good idea to discuss a list of words we hate and why. Feel free to add yours to the list. The ones I hate :mad: are:

1. Brother - My brother was my sexual abuser. Enough said.
2. Father - My father beat the shit out of me as a kid. I don't like to use this word when referring to God. I just prefer God, Lord, anything but Father.
3. Mother - My mother's physical neglect lead to severe hearing loss in both ears. The word, even we applied to others, stirs all the bad memories of my own.
4. Grooming - As stated in the previous thread, this is almost an oxymoronic word - you groom something you care about, not something you're abusing.
5. Birthday - Bad memories.
6. Survivor - Seems to imply it was luck that I survived, like those that survive a plan crash. I prefer Witness.

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Pathetic

Slut

Loser
 
cunt

nigger

elio

war
 
I have a friend who is severely triggered by the word 'beautiful'. I find that so sad, that such a loving word, something that indicates something extraordinary in a GOOD way, means so much pain to him.

I think words I hate? are more just trigger words for me. Rape, that is a word I could not hear or say for months after starting healing. Other trigger words, I just do not like because they are triggers to me.

The word 'brother' bothers me still. I know that many people here call other members 'brother'. And that it is a familial feeling here. But I had a brother. My brother died, in my lap, while I was crying and not knowing what was happening. That was my brother, and I feel still I failed him. The word 'brother' is trigger to me, it scares me, it upsets me. Because it carries expectations to me, ones I feel I can not at all meet.

And since the man who abused me had my same name, I hate my first name. I do not use it, I go by Leosha most times. But it bothers me very much to be called by my first name, and I hate that I have such bad feelings about my own name. But it was his also, and I still have not gotten over that.

leosha
 
Oddball
Freak/ of nature
Abuse
Paedophile
Molest
Abduct
Violent
Assault
Guilt

a list of many triggers for me
 
Love - once tainted...how can you believe it's real?
Boss - boss of what? If you have real power, then you do not have to demonstrate it.
Real time (OK that's 2 words) - if you worked where I do....Why don't you do that real time? Beacause I am covering your arse, sales are off on holiday, stores are off on holiday, purchasing are on holiday - I work in production & no one covers us....why am I covering 4 depts...OK then I'm bloody good!
Nice....that does not need an explanation.
But they're only operators (you stuck up *****).
 
Childhood
Innocence
Life
 
Get over it

Father

Trust me

If you love me, you'll do this

It's our secret

You made me do this to you

So many other things echo in my memory :mad:

Marc
 
Trust
Father
Paedophile(s)
Parole
Treatment
70's
Glam
Chicken
Labels
Constipation (and its remedies)
Religion

Leosha, youre friend is not alone in hating the word beautiful except when used in conjunction with my grandchildren there is no other way to describe them but even that has disturbed me in the past, not so now.

Archnut
 
Baby
Son
Beautiful
Slut
Faggot
Pig
Bitch


I see a pattern developing here.

:(

Scot
 
Although it's not one word ...." per se"

" let it go "

" shame "

" don't worry about it"

" no big deal "

" sucker "

these words make me want to strangle someone
 
GET OVER IT ......thats a real big one, that makes me nuts...
 
Perp
 
WORDS I HATE


mother-fucker / mean as a mother-fucker-
It feels like my spine is getting slit open with a scalpel without anesthetic and salt is being poured into the wound, by someone who has a smile on his face. because it is victim blaming. It feels like Im stereotyped as a serial murdering rapist.

mamas boy -
because it is victim blaming. Because it has the potential for the same sick connotation as daddys girl. Because I failed to be boy enough. Oedipus is about the boys attachment to his mother = victim blaming. Why isnt it about the mothers obsession with the innocent boy.

sucker -
because when I hear it I feel like a sign suddenly appears on my back that says RECEPTACLE.

such pretty hair -
My mother put a bow in my hair when I was a toddler and set me up for the later abuse by my brother, and then by her.

you have a figure any girl would envy -
Thats what she told me when I was 12.

hernia / drop your pants-
At 12 I had to strip in front of my mother and my rapist brother. He smirked, while she did a visual hernia check when I walked in from school one day. When I hesitated while looking at him, she furthur humiliated me saying hes just your brother, another boy. I had no idea what a hernia was.

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