"children who have been sexually abused become sexualized, play becomes focused on sexual activities".I'm beginning to read Judith Herman's book Trauma and Recovery published in 1992. She'd worked with women who'd been sexually abused and writes from what she describes as a feminist perspective. As she speaks about trauma the times men come into the picture is when they've gone off to war and been traumatized by the horror of it all. With regard to sexual abuse she invariably talks about "she." But I realized as I read this that without those first efforts to raise the specter of child sexual abuse of girls we probably never would have gotten to the place we are today when, at last, there is attention being given to boys and young men. It is still true that abuse of boys by women is discounted through a variety of rationalizations, but that will doubtless change with time. Part of that comes from men talking about their experience on Male Survivor and elsewhere. Does anyone doubt that women who were sexually abused themselves might have distorted feelings about sex that might carry over in their treatment of their sons? I don't know my mother was sexually abused, but what world would have a mother stimulating his son's genitals? It is recognizing that children who have been sexually abused become "sexualized" which leads to play becoming focused on sexual activities. Sexual experience is taken toward compulsivity. It certainly did for me and I wouldn't be surprised the same things happen for girls... but girls are typically the ones called upon to change diapers. Sadly, sexual abuse ends up coloring much of our lives in ways that are quite surprising. We're all here hoping to understand and to recover our innate aliveness. I wish us all well.
I think a lot of it has to do with people who haven't experienced it thinking it's some kind of fantasy come true, the older woman teaching the young man, etc.Why people don't take male victims of female abuse as serious as they take female victims?
Male Survivor GuidelinesWhat are the guidelines? How does one regester, what is involved?