Why would anyone love me????

Why would anyone love me????
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TrailofTears

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I guess that sounds like I am wallowing in my depression, but I truely don't understand; There are guys who make more money, who are smarter, are better looking, have better jobs, drive better cars, and even more (well-endowed). Why would anyone desire me, love or care for me????
I absolutely hate feeling like I am not as good as others or rather, just plain unlovable.
I understand where some of it comes from, but not how to deal with it. Could someone please help?
An Adult Male Survivor OF SCA.
 
try listing all the reasons why somebody should love you ,starting with the fact that you are human and every human being deserves love
 
It sounds like a total cliche, but woman like men who are not afraid to be themselves. By this I mean guys who don't talk shit, or pretend to be something they are not.

Looks, money, and all the other stuff are important, but not to all women. Most women just want to be happy with the man they choose. Take care of that, and all the other stuff becomes a lot less relevant. Guaranteed if you act naturally and be honest about yourself, you will find a woman who will love you.

HTH

Nobby
 
We're good people born into terrible circumstances. What was done to you reflects nothing about who or what you are. We're born innocent, and you know what? You're still innocent.

I often fight with the same feelings. In families like mine, we had to earn every single drop of "love" we could squeeze out of our parents. So I spend my life thinking love can only come by my doing something. And that's not true. It's the inside, the personality that may be even more empathetic because of what we've been through. Let them see you. In my experience, the "better looking, well endowed, nice-car-driving guys with more money" are usually missing something in the personality department that we have. Heart.

Take care.
 
Trail,

Feeling that one is inferior or even unlovable is really common among survivors. It has only been in the past year that I have appreciated how devastated I was by these feelings.

Try to talk more here about how you are feeling and that will help you a lot. It's so important to reject the silence and claim your voice again to talk about what happened. Also, try to get some professional help. Working with a good therapist is important.

Ultimately, what you will discover is that all these negative feelings you have about yourself are false. It's not easy to work through this, but you can get your life back.

This isn't something one can explain in one post, but stick with us and you will begin to see what I mean.

Much love,
Larry
 
'Kentucky' - I can't call you 'trail of tears' - sorry.

The people who appear to have it all, and big dicks, are in a minority. The world is full of regular guys, with average dicks, struggling to earn a crust. And I'm certainly one of them.

But I do know how you feel, you feel like shit because your abuse conditioned you to feel this way.
I've been here at MS for a while now and I can promise you that escape from this thinking is possible, there are so many guys here that arrived here thinking that they were at the bottom of the shit pile. But we climbed out of it.

It's not easy, and it won't happen overnight either, but it's worth the effort.
Trust me on that!

Dave
 
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