Why do I hate the phone??

Why do I hate the phone??
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onlyakid

Why do I hate calling customers on the phone even to tell them there computers ready. Why do I always want to get an answering machine?

Jason
 
J,

Perhaps talking to new people makes you afraid that they just my "figure you out", instantly? You know, like me thinking there must be "loser" written on my forehead in ink that anyone but I can see?

For me, I really used to believe "Silence is Golden"

Just a thought.

Peace,

Marc
 
Jason,

I don't know. Maybe Marc has it right. It s kind of funny. I'm great on the phone when someone answers, but I can't talk to the answering machine to save my sorry butt. Sometimes I actually panic when a machien answers, say really stupid stuff and sound like a total idiot.

Go figure!

Aden
 
I have phone problems too. I have interaction problems in general. Shame is why I avoid.

"Jon, I need you to call so-and-so and ask them such-and such". And with absolute certainty here comes the shame.

How can I interact with this person, when I am so disgusting? No one else has done the things I have done. They won't know it but I'm gross. My own Grandmother wanted to kill me, who do I think I am that I can talk to this person.

I feel this way. But believe it or not I make the call anyway. I am actually very good at interacting with people because I developed people pleasing skills. I can be funny, patient and I listen very well. But the above is how I feel when I feel forced to interact with someone.

I mean, I can't very well tell my boss, "sorry I am really feeling too ashamed of myself to interact with anyone today. Do you think someone else could do that for you?"

Although I never actually tried it....
 
Jason - I have had problems with 'new people' for a long time (subconsciously & sometimes consciously) because I have wondered what it is they really want from me! I was let down at key points in my life. Don't know if it means anything to you, but if you're speaking to someone on the telephone, they might start making demands of you (not sexual, but demands for information/action)& this can trigger you.

Best wishes ....Rik
 
I read your post and I think, that's funny. (Not, funny haha). All my life, I have HATED the phone. Anyone here who know me enough can tell you I am STILL nervous on the phone. I don't know what it is. I don't think I ever even talked on phone until I was a teenager. But I think by then, I was already 'programmed' enough to feel that nothing I could say would be worthy of being heard at all, maybe that is part of it. And there is something nerve-wraking, when you can not see the expression of the other person you are talking with. You would think that would make computer talking harder also. But for some reason, this is easier. Maybe because it is 'seeing' it in black and white, and not just hearing a voice without a body!

Leosha
 
I do not like the phone at all. It is tough for me and I would rather just do email. To me on the phone, I have no way of seeing how the other person is reacting to me which is a major thing for me. I've only got a couple of close friends that I talk to on the phone, other than that, I never use up all my cell phone minutes in a month. Never! And sometimes even hearing a phone ring (the ringing sound) really gets me angry.

Don
 
I do not like phone so much either. I don't talk so much to people at all in 'real life' even. On phone, is even harder, because I get embarased, and talk worse so people can't hear me so good. Maybe it is like people say, that you can not see the other person, how they responding to you.

andrei
 
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