Who are We!

Who are We!
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reality2k4

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This is one of the issues that really bugged my life, and it is due to reading another thread here that I post it.

Abuse never takes away our need for love, but it is compromised by hurt, but we do not realise that we are craving love and attention.

When we crave love and attention, we are walked over, when we put up boundaries we are alone.

What really gets to me, is that I find that it is hard to express myself in a normal way.

This goes back to when he was a boy, and he did not know how to reach out and find help from friends and family alike.

It is a key area that was broken or smashed away.

The one thing that really hit me about this site, is that guys, adn the women who support them, are so cool and thoughtful.

It is one thing that I think is missing in myself, but is it?

It is just that I can bury it, and just whine away about me.

Can anyone relate to this?

It seems like a huge part of me is missing, but it is not. It is just that I lose site of it,

ste
 
STE,

Interesting post. I just finished responding to a post called discourage newbie (Bob). I responding to his message with what I will say here.

I think you are on the right tract. It is not that it is missing, but rather we have forgotten who we are. We must reawaken to it. This has not been easy for me personally. The "who we really are" which is pure love, has been replaced by the false notion that we are not worthy of love and we are not loved. Subsequently we lose site of the love that we are and become what we think we are and that is that unworthy person.

I have been there and have worked thru a lot that I know the truth in my heart much more than I ever have before. I am reawakening to the love that I am, that self love instead of that self loathing crap.

We crave that love because we have forgotten that we are that love. So we want someone to give it to us, when in all actuality we can give it to ourself. We are "walked over" as you say because I believe when we look for that love from outside of ourself the action is tanted with fear which sets the stage for bad experiences.

When we are in a place of pure self love, nothing can harm us adn there is no fear. This, my friend is what I am currently learning to be with and be comfortable with.

We must love ourself first before we can love anyone else. We can not give what we do not have.

You are loved man.

Dominic
 
Dominic,

thanks for the reminder, I love men, but dont have many men friends.
The ones that I do have are ultra cool and seem to know and like me for who I am.

My problem shifts from day to day, I can be triggered by men, but then I go down to the woodyard asking for timber, or lumber I think you call it, and the guys are so helpful, and I think,well, most guys are cool.

Another issue, is the need for my own space.
I would love to just drop my boundaries, or have healthy ones like most people.

Some people have boundaries because they are shy, but I am not shy, I have been on stage with a band on many occasions, in front of thousands of people, scary at first, but it really did boost my confidence.

Thanks for help,

ste
 
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