Where You a Resilient Child?
I'm going to do a little thinking out loud; feel free to chime in and reflect and share if you like.
I wonder if I was resilient as a child?
I feel for that 12-year-old boy that didn't know what to do with the situations he endured. But were the survival skills he adopted, faulty as they were, also brilliant in that he made it to adulthood.
I struggle with this question because I have always viewed myself as a patchwork human being. That is to say, did I make it this far in life because the child I once was figured out how to keep the ugly inside. But unfortunately, it wasn't until I was 50 that the patches no longer held and fell apart. So maybe I am not giving credit where credit is due?
Children of domestic violence and abuse have many more resources accessible to them today than when I was a child.
In the past years, the system believed that a child who experienced domestic violence had very little chance of recovering and living an emotionally healthy life as an adult. However, based on current research, this is no longer excepted knowledge. We are learning more and more every day about how children exposed to domestic violence grow up to be healthy partners in relationships and as parents.
I can't help imagine how my life would have been with the awareness that is out there today. I feel that part on so many levels inside, but I can't dwell on that because that was yesterday.
I imagine he/I was a resilient child and did the best one could do with the trauma he handled on his own. Thank you for getting me this far in life. It's my turn to hold you up, and in a way, we are bouncing back together. I got it from here, little man!
I wonder if I was resilient as a child?
Definition of: Resilient
re·sil·ient| rəˈzilyənt | adjective
1 (of a person or animal) able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions: babies are generally far more resilient than new parents realize.
2 (of a substance or object) able to recoil or spring back into shape after bending, stretching, or being compressed: a shoe with resilient cushioning.
I feel for that 12-year-old boy that didn't know what to do with the situations he endured. But were the survival skills he adopted, faulty as they were, also brilliant in that he made it to adulthood.
I struggle with this question because I have always viewed myself as a patchwork human being. That is to say, did I make it this far in life because the child I once was figured out how to keep the ugly inside. But unfortunately, it wasn't until I was 50 that the patches no longer held and fell apart. So maybe I am not giving credit where credit is due?
Children of domestic violence and abuse have many more resources accessible to them today than when I was a child.
In the past years, the system believed that a child who experienced domestic violence had very little chance of recovering and living an emotionally healthy life as an adult. However, based on current research, this is no longer excepted knowledge. We are learning more and more every day about how children exposed to domestic violence grow up to be healthy partners in relationships and as parents.
I can't help imagine how my life would have been with the awareness that is out there today. I feel that part on so many levels inside, but I can't dwell on that because that was yesterday.
I imagine he/I was a resilient child and did the best one could do with the trauma he handled on his own. Thank you for getting me this far in life. It's my turn to hold you up, and in a way, we are bouncing back together. I got it from here, little man!