When Did You Realize That Those Complicated Memories Were of Abuse?
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Josh,
Reading back over this thread has been really helpful to me. Thanks for starting it. I see in one way I really didn't answer your question.
When I was abused at age 11 I didn't even know it was about sex, much less abuse. That was 1960, though, and I don't recall ever hearing the word. We were told don't go with strangers, but we didn't know why that was a bad idea. I knew the abuser and I trusted him. I even asked him questions like "This feels good so I guess that means it's okay, right?"
I didn't really figure it out until I heard the word rape somewhere and asked my Dad what it meant. He told me "It's when a man has sex with a woman and she doesn't want it." Somehow that put all the pieces together for me. I screamed into my pillow for about an hour that night.
Much love,
Larry
Reading back over this thread has been really helpful to me. Thanks for starting it. I see in one way I really didn't answer your question.
When I was abused at age 11 I didn't even know it was about sex, much less abuse. That was 1960, though, and I don't recall ever hearing the word. We were told don't go with strangers, but we didn't know why that was a bad idea. I knew the abuser and I trusted him. I even asked him questions like "This feels good so I guess that means it's okay, right?"
I didn't really figure it out until I heard the word rape somewhere and asked my Dad what it meant. He told me "It's when a man has sex with a woman and she doesn't want it." Somehow that put all the pieces together for me. I screamed into my pillow for about an hour that night.
Much love,
Larry