What's This One?
What's This One?
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Well, this raises an interesting area. As a non-survivor, I sometimes feel like I'm intruding if I go into the "survivors only" area. For a long time, I didn't go, even though I could. As a therapist working with survivors, I believe I have much to learn from the people I work with and they from me. I'm a little concerned about the member/guest split (though I supported it at the last board meeting in order to help the organization grow)and wonder if I'll miss some important postings (where I could help or learn) because they're posted in the guest area.
I also wonder how survivors feel about me reading posts and responding on occasion.
Ken
PS- Nice to see that you feel comfortable to post your name, Vic.
I also wonder how survivors feel about me reading posts and responding on occasion.
Ken
PS- Nice to see that you feel comfortable to post your name, Vic.
Hi Ken,
It would never occur to me that you are not a survivor. I have read some of your professionqal papers and have so much respect for you.
In my opinion I would treasure any input you would give any where.
I would think that Board Members have access every where since in a sense you are the over seers of our whole org and all it does.
Thanks for your thoughts on confrontation. I read them even tho my perps that I know of are deceased. I encounter them in my mind now and then. I guess I don't move on completely.
BTW, things are better re: dissociation the past week.
Bob
It would never occur to me that you are not a survivor. I have read some of your professionqal papers and have so much respect for you.
In my opinion I would treasure any input you would give any where.
I would think that Board Members have access every where since in a sense you are the over seers of our whole org and all it does.
Thanks for your thoughts on confrontation. I read them even tho my perps that I know of are deceased. I encounter them in my mind now and then. I guess I don't move on completely.
BTW, things are better re: dissociation the past week.
Bob
Ken:
Ditto with Bob, I would never have thot you weren't a survivor. From what I've read on the boards & in your writing, you have a deep understanding of and a working compassion with us survivors.
BTW I just carefully re-read your article on Disclosure & Confrontation, and picked up a lot of good ideas & reaffirmations for the process of disclosure I've begun. Thanks.
Again ditto with Bob, I would value your opinions & participation on any board any time you think is appropriate as someone who has put in years of hard research and valuable work with survivors.
Its also good to know that as a worker with survivors as well as a member of the Board, you are reading the posts, helping to keep up with & keep track of us.
Ken I read but didn't really involve myself in the discussions about the member/guest split, maybe becuz I felt too new or just felt I add nothing to add at the time.
But for what its worth I affirm it was & is the right decision. One I've seen work on several other recovery sites, as a guest, a member, and even a moderator.
I think it gives any male survivor (or family member/friend) every chance to come here to learn, vent, build mutual trust, find any help needed, and grow toward membership while giving good incentives for so doing--on a well monitored & well moderated safe site.
I think it gives members the added safety they need as they begin to want to open up more, become more involved, and like me start the process of disclosure. We also have an increased investment and ownership, the sense & the reality of which I already value far beyond the $35 I invested in membership.
After all, the members only area is a place "where everybody knows my name!"
Vic
P.S.--Its been many years, but I briefly lived near enuf to Lambertville NJ that I spent a little time there. My fibrofogged memory fails me as to whether I'm thinking of the right people or not, but I know we had some friends from Lambertville we may have visited there, in the mid-80's I think. My wife grew up in S Jersey.
Ditto with Bob, I would never have thot you weren't a survivor. From what I've read on the boards & in your writing, you have a deep understanding of and a working compassion with us survivors.
BTW I just carefully re-read your article on Disclosure & Confrontation, and picked up a lot of good ideas & reaffirmations for the process of disclosure I've begun. Thanks.
Again ditto with Bob, I would value your opinions & participation on any board any time you think is appropriate as someone who has put in years of hard research and valuable work with survivors.
Its also good to know that as a worker with survivors as well as a member of the Board, you are reading the posts, helping to keep up with & keep track of us.
Ken I read but didn't really involve myself in the discussions about the member/guest split, maybe becuz I felt too new or just felt I add nothing to add at the time.
But for what its worth I affirm it was & is the right decision. One I've seen work on several other recovery sites, as a guest, a member, and even a moderator.
I think it gives any male survivor (or family member/friend) every chance to come here to learn, vent, build mutual trust, find any help needed, and grow toward membership while giving good incentives for so doing--on a well monitored & well moderated safe site.
I think it gives members the added safety they need as they begin to want to open up more, become more involved, and like me start the process of disclosure. We also have an increased investment and ownership, the sense & the reality of which I already value far beyond the $35 I invested in membership.
After all, the members only area is a place "where everybody knows my name!"
Vic
P.S.--Its been many years, but I briefly lived near enuf to Lambertville NJ that I spent a little time there. My fibrofogged memory fails me as to whether I'm thinking of the right people or not, but I know we had some friends from Lambertville we may have visited there, in the mid-80's I think. My wife grew up in S Jersey.
Vic and Bob:
I appreciate the compliments, particularly that what I wrote has been helpful for you. This is so much better than the crap that went on for too long with "Factsperson" and his divisiveness. The name of the game is healing and recovery. If we can get the info out to those who need it, then we're doing our job. I look forward to working with you and others who are healing and helping others heal.
I'm trying to encourage non-members (guests) to join in order to make MaleSurvivor/NOMSV stronger. Let's work together!
Ken
I appreciate the compliments, particularly that what I wrote has been helpful for you. This is so much better than the crap that went on for too long with "Factsperson" and his divisiveness. The name of the game is healing and recovery. If we can get the info out to those who need it, then we're doing our job. I look forward to working with you and others who are healing and helping others heal.
I'm trying to encourage non-members (guests) to join in order to make MaleSurvivor/NOMSV stronger. Let's work together!
Ken
Ken,
I can remeber how scared I was when I first came to the chat room so many years ago. You, Ian and Shel were so wonderful to talk to. And you have helped both my wife and I through your support in the chat room, your replies to our e-mails, and the writing we have found of yours. You are a true blessing to have here.
Thank You,
George
I can remeber how scared I was when I first came to the chat room so many years ago. You, Ian and Shel were so wonderful to talk to. And you have helped both my wife and I through your support in the chat room, your replies to our e-mails, and the writing we have found of yours. You are a true blessing to have here.
Thank You,
George