What would you ask a perpetrator (possible trigger)?
roadrunner
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Brothers,
I was trawling around in the archive, just to see what's back there, and I found this thread, started by Ken Singer way back in September of 2004. We really do have a different crowd here now, and there are some other valuable threads about perps currently running on the DB. So I thought I would bring this one back to the surface.
Note that Ken isn't asking for responses expressing our anger, such as "How could you do this to a helpless child?". What he has in mind is this:
1. What fun was there in fucking a 12 year old boy who's laying under you with his eyes shut, trembling and crying?
2. Was the danger part of the kick? You must have known my Dad had been a Navy sapper in the Pacific. He wouldn't have let you live another hour had he known what you were doing. Even when I disclosed to him, 11 years after your death, the first thing he said to me was "This wasn't your fault", the second was "How did he get past me?", and the third was "Is he still alive?" When I told him no he replied, "Good, that's item number one off the list."
3. Did your wife know about you? So many times what happened was in your home.
4. Did you ever like me, just as a kid and not as a kid to abuse?
5. Did you plan out the escalating scheme of lies, or did it just come to you?
6. Did you also do these things to your son?
7. Why did you make me do things in the church?
I guess the list would be endless, but I will stop for how and see if others have questions to raise here.
Much love,
Larry
I was trawling around in the archive, just to see what's back there, and I found this thread, started by Ken Singer way back in September of 2004. We really do have a different crowd here now, and there are some other valuable threads about perps currently running on the DB. So I thought I would bring this one back to the surface.
Note that Ken isn't asking for responses expressing our anger, such as "How could you do this to a helpless child?". What he has in mind is this:
With that in mind, here are a few things that occur to me:Again, my motivation for this project is to empower survivors. My belief and experience with survivors is that perpetrators create a false belief system in the child (or vulnerable adult) victim that stays with them for many years. Empowerment is vital to the recovery process. If this work can empower survivors to break the hold that perpetrators have on them because of fear or holding on to false beliefs, then the survivor can grow more powerful and put the abuse where it belongs, in the past and no longer affecting the man.
1. What fun was there in fucking a 12 year old boy who's laying under you with his eyes shut, trembling and crying?
2. Was the danger part of the kick? You must have known my Dad had been a Navy sapper in the Pacific. He wouldn't have let you live another hour had he known what you were doing. Even when I disclosed to him, 11 years after your death, the first thing he said to me was "This wasn't your fault", the second was "How did he get past me?", and the third was "Is he still alive?" When I told him no he replied, "Good, that's item number one off the list."
3. Did your wife know about you? So many times what happened was in your home.
4. Did you ever like me, just as a kid and not as a kid to abuse?
5. Did you plan out the escalating scheme of lies, or did it just come to you?
6. Did you also do these things to your son?
7. Why did you make me do things in the church?
I guess the list would be endless, but I will stop for how and see if others have questions to raise here.
Much love,
Larry