What would you ask a perpetrator (possible trigger)?

What would you ask a perpetrator (possible trigger)?
Brothers,

I was trawling around in the archive, just to see what's back there, and I found this thread, started by Ken Singer way back in September of 2004. We really do have a different crowd here now, and there are some other valuable threads about perps currently running on the DB. So I thought I would bring this one back to the surface.

Note that Ken isn't asking for responses expressing our anger, such as "How could you do this to a helpless child?". What he has in mind is this:

Again, my motivation for this project is to empower survivors. My belief and experience with survivors is that perpetrators create a false belief system in the child (or vulnerable adult) victim that stays with them for many years. Empowerment is vital to the recovery process. If this work can empower survivors to break the hold that perpetrators have on them because of fear or holding on to false beliefs, then the survivor can grow more powerful and put the abuse where it belongs, in the past and no longer affecting the man.
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With that in mind, here are a few things that occur to me:

1. What fun was there in fucking a 12 year old boy who's laying under you with his eyes shut, trembling and crying?

2. Was the danger part of the kick? You must have known my Dad had been a Navy sapper in the Pacific. He wouldn't have let you live another hour had he known what you were doing. Even when I disclosed to him, 11 years after your death, the first thing he said to me was "This wasn't your fault", the second was "How did he get past me?", and the third was "Is he still alive?" When I told him no he replied, "Good, that's item number one off the list."

3. Did your wife know about you? So many times what happened was in your home.

4. Did you ever like me, just as a kid and not as a kid to abuse?

5. Did you plan out the escalating scheme of lies, or did it just come to you?

6. Did you also do these things to your son?

7. Why did you make me do things in the church?

I guess the list would be endless, but I will stop for how and see if others have questions to raise here.

Much love,
Larry
 
Only 1 comes to mind for me. Pretty broad really but it's what I would want to ask.


What were you thinking?


John
 
Assuming he would answer honestly, I would ask him why he doesn't get help.
 
I would ask him if he is prepared to go to Hell!
A oneway ticket,

ste
 
i would ask him why he brought another kid for me to train for him ,if he had not done that i would not have had the strenght to fight again ,i would tell him yes you can do whatever you want with me,but i'll die before i let you do it to another innocent kid. why did you continue to beat me even after i gave up? you had me ,why hurt me ?why did you make me think i was worthless ,why did you tell me god hated me and would always know the horrible things i had done ,why did you take my childhood ,my faith ,and my life away? why did you always make sure to tell me look your getting so hard ,i knew you wanted this as much as i did .i would ask him why i shouldnt make it my lifes purpose to watch him die slowly.i had a chance to ask my perp any of these things but i couldnt ask him anything i could only stand at my grans grave and look across at him in fear ,not fear of him ,fear of what seeing him made me want to do.
 
Assuming we could use truth serum, I would ask, How many others?
 
I've tried to think of some good questions. I'm assuming that this is a perpetrator who is in therapy, realizes he has a problem, and is willing to talk about it. I'm also assuming it's not one of MY perpetrators.

- What is it about children that draws you to them?

- What is the nature of your behavior? Is it a compulsive self-control problem, or is there a conscious decision/premeditation thing going on?

- What would it take/what needs to happen for you to decide that a particular child should not be subjected to what you want to do?

- What do we need to tell kids, to keep them from winding up in a situation similar to that of your victims?
 
Melliferal,

I like your post. I never thought of those questions but they are very good.
 
What will you tell the boys father when he comes and hunts you down?

Will you hit back when he kicks shit out of you!

Do your neighbors know you f*ck little kids?

How can you manage to keep your head up and look ppl in the eye, when you do this to kids?

The list is endless,

ste
 
Why did you blur out your face but not mine when you shared those pictures you took of me?

How many people did you share those pictures with?

How can anyone enjoy looking at pictures of an 11 year boy being raped?
 
Are the thousands of boys (me included) you abused in a state of denail to their possible homosexual traits or was that just part of your grooming technique. Are you at all aware of the damage and confusion you have caused.

Why do you say that we in the western civilisation have a "warped view of sexuality".

You say your human rights have been abused (due to the nature of your arrest) in what way were they abused?

kirk
"Lets grab this bull by the horns and swing it about a bit"
 
If there was nothing wrong with what you used to do to me (as you would tell me at the time)why did you deny most of it to the courts.

You said in court that making a 6 year old wank off his father was wrong. Why didnt you show any remorse?

Only you, me and God know the truth about what you did. Why did you plead guilty to making me wank you and not to the oral sex and the rapes?

How many others did you abuse?

Did you abuse Marcus?

Did you abuse your own sister, Pat?

Now your in prison, do you accept you did wrong?

How is the segregation unit?
 
Do you find any level of pride or satisfaction in your line of work? I know that this question sounds sarcastic, but I am serious. When you go to bed at night do you look back at the accomplishments of the day and see a job well done?
 
Do you bloody well even care?
 
Back to the issue of the lies:

Did you eventually begin to believe your own lies? They were so real! I listened to every word.
 
What was so out of control in your life that you had to have control over me? Did that controll help you feel as if your life was whole or fill what was lacking in it?
 
What did i do to you to make you do those things?

what comes around gos around, and you WILL get yours.

Go scriosa cnna ifrinn do chro!!!!!
 
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