What I want for my birthday!

What I want for my birthday!
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RICK57

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I was born June 29th 1957..over the years, I have received various presents. This year will be my first birthday since I started really dealing with being abused.

For quite some time, I thought that winning the lottery, owning a Ferrari (well Dodge Viper or TVR would be my preference, or a 1978 Corvette Stingray) living in a castle would mean that I was somebody. I know that I would never really have any of those! They wouldn't necessarily make me someone either!

What I would really like to receive this year is a promise from each and everyone of you, that you will all take one positive step towards reducing the impact that your experiences have had upon you.

This doesn't have to be a major step, but examples could be:

1/ I will appreciate and willingly accept compliments that are given to me.

2/ I will put out the trash so that it will be picked up every time they come for it (I will not hoard it in the yard for weeks on end.

3/ I will cook & enjoy that steak I have promised myself (sorry if you are vegitarian or vegan).

4/ I will tell someone that I love them even though I personally find it difficult to do so.

It would be nice to have 6 responses - that would be 1 for each month that I have been dealing with this.

29 responses would be excellent - match the day of the month I was born on.

It would be more than fantastic to have 47 responses - that would be 1 for each year that I have been on this planet.

1957 responses - the year that I was born - I couldn't cope with that many!

Go on - surprise me, surprise yourselves - you are all strong beautiful people - lets give each other hope & please make my day!

Thanks...Rik
 
Hi Rick,
Happy birthday,
Number one I have done.
Number two I did today, I got up early and put out the trash. Recycle too !!!!
Number 3 I have done, but not as much as I should, however this spring is different.
Number 4 ? working on it, lol
have a great day
Dan
 
Rick,

For your birthday.

I will promise to find at least one new good thing about myself everyday for 29 days. And write them down.

Marc
 
rick,
happy birthday!. i appreciate your compassion for us on your day.
i have not been doing well this week but your post makes me feel a little better.
i am glad it is a special time and you have been working 6 months on this. me, only a month or so, maybe a month and a half.
anyhow, i promise to be the strongest i can be to work on my healing. to not give up, even though i have freaked out a bit lately and have been depressed and even had my first panic attack yesterday. what a mess, but tha t is the process i suppose and i promise for your birthday to keep coming back and working on me. then, i will be able to focus on others better and quit getting hurt so much or if that is not the case, me hurting them emotionally.
anyhow, have a happy one, we are here for you, i know our brothers are here for us.
peace and blessings, guy
 
Thanks - Dan, Marc & Guy - this is exactly what I was hoping for. I have punched the air with joy, less than 2 hours after making this post.

There are 18 days to go...make me the happiest 47 year old on the planet(still only 46) ...at this rate I will be an astronaut (I'll at least be over the moon).

Do this for me & remember that you also do it for yourselves!!!!!

I want each and every one of us to win, stand up and be strong... best wishes ,...RIk
 
Happy early birthday!
I always take the trash out, every week.
I will learn to take a complement.
I will learn to say I love you to the people I really love!
CAsey
 
9 days to go & I've just about destroyed the demons of the sites/locations that I was abused at. I've cleaned my kitchen & I don't recognise it compared to how untidy it was. Anyone else doing anything? It's your rebirthday as well as mine!..Rik
 
rik,
i wish you a best celebration of your birth. the challenge you pose is compelling. the only thing i can promise with any degree of certainty is that i will continue to look for the horizon. someday, i will share the whole story of how much this concept means to me in my daily emotional and spiritual life. journey well, my friend.
 
Leo - all I can say is ...there are some beautiful things on the horizon (and around us) I promise to look out for them...promise me that you will too.

Thanks ...Rik
 
Happy early birthday Rik. It is the day before a less then pleasant 'anniversary' for me. But that is nice, because I can concentrate on your birthday post, and seeing how many responses you get.

The biggest, most negative thing I think for me of the abuse is the inability to have physical intimacy. My girlfriend and I have before slept in the same bed together (not sexual), but I have not been able to do that for some reason since being in hospital. So that will be the step I make in honor of your day, to allow us more pleasnt time together and being physically closer.

Have a happy day.

Leosha
 
happy birthday to ric happybirthday to ric!

I dont know what I can do,well I did have one thing,I made a happy basket (the idea came to me this mornig at about 4.00 am), through out day Im going to write on a pice of paper one thing that I should be happy for or that I am happy for ,and put it in the basket, but if I feel unhappy, I take one happy thought out and replace it with an unhappy thoguht (somthing im not happy about or dont lke) then at the end of the day im going to count out how many happy things are in the basket and how many sad things, are in it, then im going to look at the sad things and try to figure out why they make me sad. and write it down why it does and how I can make it better, I only just started this today, and was going to give up doing it, but reading your post made me stick to it, so ill try to be posative about myself, and accept compliments from others, (I already accepted one from my house mate, he said I looked, nice this morning.) i really reccomend doing this basket thing everyone, it can really help ric you do it too! its gonna help someone isnt it? come on guys try it!,

happy birthday again ric, I hope you have a good day. and I hope that your happy too, (remember that okay? :) ) make sure that you accept compliments too 'kay?!


Camron
 
Happy almost birthday Rick. I am never going to stop bugging government till they provide decent assistance to teenagers and men who are on the path we are. I am going to be a real pain in the ass to them.
 
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