What does a 12 year old know? *Possible Triggers*

[subdeacon]

My abuse ended when I was about 9 or 10 (I can remember back to age 6 for the abuse to start), so my brother would have been 12 or 13 when it ended. Weird, I just realized he stopped when I reached the age he was when it started. That's probably significant(maybe he was 6 when/if he was abused). I'll have to think on that. Anyway, the point is that when he started at age 9 he was using all the classic lures and tricks to get me to do things. He had to have learned them and simply parroted them back, having had them used on himself (I even am pretty sure who did the abuse on him. It was a neighbor down the street). My brother is dead now and died before I was able to make sense of what had happened (I was 12 when he died). Kids who abuse other kids had to have learned it from somewhere. It's not something that just pops into their heads full grown and with effective luring techniques fully developed; so even a 15 year old who abuses a 12 year old is probably not working on a 15 year old level mentally. A 12 year old is not emotionally an adult who can make informed decisions. If they were we'd let them drive and vote and drink. If someone's not emotionally and physically up to driving a stinkin' car they surely aren't up to navigating the complexities of sexual relations no matter how savvy they appear. Their brains aren't even finished developing, from what I understand. Don't worry. Put those worries to rest.
Peace.
Philip

 

[Don-NY]

lacansletter,

I really like what you had to say, especially this part:

I feel a horrible and painful empathy for that little boy. But I want to thank him for the man I have become. For grasping life regardless of the hurt, otherwise I would not have the love I have today.

I also wanted to say that "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" is one of my favorites. It had a profound positive impact on me at a very difficult time in my life. I'd recommend that book for anyone.

 

[RICK57]

This may trigger, but I feel that many people on this post are missing a glaring point!

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Everyone has stated more or less what they did/didn't know at 12 years old.

My major problem (based upon the original post) is that the program "The War at Home" unnecessarily sexualises children. It indicates that a 13 year old boy is a chronic masturbator (yes I suppose many are). It then indicates that he wants to 'spill his milk' on his girlfriends mothers breasts (am I interpreting this wrong?).

There are enough stories around, or that could be made up to purely involve adults - why is it necessary for script writers to sexualise children. Am I just getting this totally wrong - we do not have this program in the UK!?

If children are having these thoughts, fair enough - can't the script writers just allow them to be children as we were not???

If you are making programs about a child's sexuality, then it should be a documentory with an anonymous child - not a poor taste joke.

Whats's next ?? Daddy says it's OK... Child starts affair wih girlfriends mother. Girlfriends father finds out....make up your own story from here....child is beaten / sodomised etc!!!!!!

Best wishes ( )...Rik

 

[onlyakid]

Re: The sister's boyfriends mother
It was more of a can't go into the bathroom and masturbate after the dinner after a sexually suggestive situation comes by and that frustrates him. Not that he wanted to have sex with her.