What controls us?

What controls us?

FlyWM

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What controls us? Can be a simple, or a hard question, depending on where you are. How many of us actually let ourselves be controlled by the good forces, such as love? I hazard a guess that many of us are more likely controlled by the more negative forces, such as fear and doubt. All fear and doubt do for us is build walls within, walls that over time can seem impregnable, walls that can seem impossible to scale. Walls that just get taller and thicker as time goes on, unless we recognize it and 'head it off at the pass.' What am I saying? Don't be like me, don't let fear and self-doubt control you. I am trying hard to fight the fear and doubt today, but it is a very hard thing for me to do. I just keep doubting and stay scared, but I'm trying.

Fear and doubt can be big frightening foes, but we must try to fight them, we must keep holding our ground, no matter how hard that may seem. "...And we will never surrender" a famous quote from Winston Churchill, a quote we should all heed and live by, we can never surrender to the fears and doubts that are within each of us. This is a lesson I am trying hard to learn myself.

The worst kind of doubt is self-doubt, a doubt we all suffer from. And I think in a way all doubt comes from self-doubt. Doubting you can be loved, doubting people actually care about you, doubting you can overcome, they all stem from self-doubt. Self-doubt is one of the many bad things we were taught through the abuse, so it is just one more thing we need to overcome, one more obstacle to clear, one more triumph to have.

Doubt can be a very dangerous thing, it is a tool used by those manipulators out there, a tool used by those who wish to control you. They sow doubt and fear wherever they go to keep us from growing into what we were meant to be. It is one big tool our abusers used, a tool to keep us down-trodden, a tool they used to keep us silent. But we are no longer silent, now we have a voice, even if only on this site. We have a voice and can overcome the fear and doubt these sickos planted within us.

Now I just need to learn how to overcome this fear and doubt, perhaps in time I can learn how to overcome it, learn to live outside of the fear and doubt, but sadly today is not that day for me, perhaps it can be your day to live outside of the fear and doubt.

Was just something that was on my mind.

peace
scott
 
old tapes, misconceptions? unexpressed pre conceived ideas and predictions? despair?

thro em out! and think honestly an free!

express your fears and they may turn out to be kittens instead of tigers... with them in the word form they may seem --- oh that is why?
not so bad!..old tapes...maybe...

mgb!
 
Fear, Anxiety pretty much run my life.

I started doing some somatic body work that looks like it is already working. My anxiety level is down and the other night I had the best night of sleep I have ever had with actually some "what I think is regular dreams". The other thing I noticed the next morning was that I didn't turn the fan on me and I was able to sleep without a problem. I hope this stuff continues this way because if I could find out what it was like to live without high levels of anxiety, life might look like something different to me.

Joy Harjo has an excellent poem on Fear that a therapist shared with me one time. I will see if I can find it and post it up here.

Don
 
Scott

you are a true survivor, I admire you force of challenge, you beat off the negative, and try to enforce the positive.

We all build our lives thru negative forces, why not? Isn't that all we knew?

there is a way we can overcome this thing, by talking about what we encountered in our lives as kids, the perceptions of the horrors that went on, the horrors most people could never even think about.

But it is real and only we know how real it was and still can be

I wish you so much in your recovery

take care

ste
 
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