WHAT CAN PARENTS DO TO PREVENT SEXUAL ABUSE?

WHAT CAN PARENTS DO TO PREVENT SEXUAL ABUSE?
Hauser

Hauser

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This really stood out for me. One of the lines REALLY gets me!!!! The one that says "Give your child enough of your time so that the child will not seek attention from other adults". Wow.......

https://www.ericdigests.org/pre-9217/sexual.htm


Stay alert to sexual abuse and teach your children what it is. Tell them they can and should say "No!" or "Stop!" to adults who threaten them sexually. Make sure your children know that it's OK to tell you about any attempt to molest them--no matter who the offender is.

The American Academy of Pediatrics encourages you to take the following steps:

--See if your child's school has an abuse prevention program for teachers and children. If it doesn't, get one started.

--Talk to your child about sexual abuse. A good time to do this is when your child's school is sponsoring a sexual abuse program.

--Teach your child about the privacy of body parts.

--Listen when your child tries to tell you something, especially when it seems hard for her to talk about it.

--Give your child enough of your time so that the child will not seek attention from other adults.

--Know with whom your child is spending time. Be careful about letting your child spend time in out-of-the-way places with other adults or older children. Plan to visit your child's caregiver without notice.

--Tell someone in authority if you suspect that your child or someone else's child is being abused.

Prevention measures to safeguard your children should begin early, since a number of child abuse cases involve preschoolers. The following guidelines offer age-appropriate topics to discuss with your children:

--18 months--Teach your child the proper names for body parts.

--3-5 years--Teach your child about private parts of the body and how to say "no" to sexual advances. Give straightforward answers about sex.

--5-8 years--Discuss safety away from home and the difference between "good touch" and "bad touch." Encourage your child to talk about scary experiences.

--8-12 years--Stress personal safety. Start to discuss rules of sexual conduct that are accepted by the family.

--13-18 years--Stress personal safety. Discuss rape, date rape, sexually transmitted diseases, and unintended pregnancy. Your child's teacher, school counselor, or pediatrician can help you teach your child to avoid sexual abuse. They know how this can be done without making your child unduly upset or fearful. For further information on child sexual abuse and other forms of abuse, write to the National Committee for Prevention of Child Abuse, P.O. Box 2866, Chicago, IL 60690.

Your pediatrician understands the importance of communication between parents and children. Your doctor is trained to detect the signs of child sexual abuse. Ask your pediatrician for advice on ways to protect your children.
 
Very interesting point Andy, there is no way out in that position, :(

ste
 
--If your child lives in fear of you, he will be afraid to give you bad news. You have then facilitated the abuse.

--If your child has no emotional support in the home, his sense of self-esteem will evaporate and will be all the more destroyed when the SA begins.
 
Perps have so much power over you, they guarantee that you will keep your mouth permanently SHUT!

As a 10yo boy, I could not have told my father what really happened, because I did NOT know what sexual abuse was.

When you and your family are threatened with him burning your house down, you are sure as HELL, not going to tell a soul.

That is the nature of abuse, nobody to trust to tell just how much hell you are going through just to protect your own parents,

ste
 
I feel it can be really easy to blame others when the blame really belongs on the perp.
I certainly had been warned about all this. The reality is, it didn't make a difference for me.
I had a very loving family. The perp was a good friend of the family.
I didn't know what was going on, he was my friend, it wasn't abuse to me. My mother was a nurse. We knew all about body parts etc.
These ideas are all good to implement. We pretty much do the same for my kids. But it won't stop a perp like mine.
Paul
 
Andy, I came across a lot of this in my last job, with the other parent crying out for help.
It must be extremely difficult to have gone through such a childhood.

I promised myself that I would never ever touch my kids if I had any.
I did not have kids, because I would be like a radar trap on them, and always keeping track on their mental state.

Not a situation to bring up kids, but at least, I never put a child into the world to be abused.
Its the best form of birth control outside of BCGs.

Parental abuse it the worst of all, and I had some of that with the mental torture that came from being abused, and feeling like a space alien in my family, still do,

ste
 
Hauser,

I know. That just happens to be where my frustration begins. There was no freakin' way out of my particular station in life at the time, not without making things worse. Trapped is the word for it. I know there are others on here who were in similar positions. However, that does not minimize the importance of your situation in any way.

ste,

I had to smile when I saw the BCGs line.

A
 
It would be an interesting topic on incest and family abuse if you wish to make it,

ste

I saw a programme tonight where someone said, that when you have a child, they almost immediately pick up on your strengths and weaknesses.

Guess it does not answer the question of why I had to always stop them fighting over me messing the bed etc.

I remember staring into my fathers eyes, and keeping him from hurting my mother.
What a task for an 11yo then going to school to be chastised for being late...Again!

I just felt like screaming out what was happening, but its the first lesson in thinking that life is not the way it is for other kids,

ste
 
Well then maybe he should not have simply married the first thing that came along? I've seen that LOT'S of times (guys marrying girls simply because no one else was available to them at that time).

THINK BEFORE YOU PROCREATE WITH SOMEONE.

Easy for me to say, I've never even had the chance.
 
i guess the only thing you can do in that situation is educate the teachers and other adults that the kid will come into contact with outside his home.

unfortunately, a lot of them just dont give a shit or are too wrapped up in their own lives to see any of the signs. and the kid keeps on suffering. great lesson to learn that no one in the world will ever try and help you out of a bad situation :/
 
well i meant more like educate them on what the signs are that the child is probably giving off without even knowing it. (not the child telling them.) but its not really a solution cuz it doesnt really work... it's all i can think of though.
 
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