Were there others?
Morning Star
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I always wonder this, as I left my hometown years ago and never new anybody else in my community , what if...?
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Were there others?
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roadrunner
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Morning Star,
That's the killer isn't it? I try to avoid that question because everything we do every day could become the subject of the "what if" question. For example, suppose I had not come over to the university on the 8:00 train this morning and such and such a thing had happened differently.... It's endless and impossible to answer I think. Every minute of our lives is decisive and is taking us down paths different from where other options would have led us.
I'm not sure what you mean when you ask "were there others". Other abusers or other victims of the same perp? If you mean the latter, I think it's a fair guess that there were other victims, simply because abusers tend to offend over and over again.
Much love,
Larry
That's the killer isn't it? I try to avoid that question because everything we do every day could become the subject of the "what if" question. For example, suppose I had not come over to the university on the 8:00 train this morning and such and such a thing had happened differently.... It's endless and impossible to answer I think. Every minute of our lives is decisive and is taking us down paths different from where other options would have led us.
I'm not sure what you mean when you ask "were there others". Other abusers or other victims of the same perp? If you mean the latter, I think it's a fair guess that there were other victims, simply because abusers tend to offend over and over again.
Much love,
Larry
reality2k4
Registrant
Abhi,
of course there were, I knew that when I was 10yo.
Didnt take long to figure that.
That is a big part of the guilt when not telling, and just let them go on hurting.
ste
of course there were, I knew that when I was 10yo.
Didnt take long to figure that.
That is a big part of the guilt when not telling, and just let them go on hurting.
ste
Morning Star
Registrant
Guess what?
Today is a different day, today I am learning to Trust universal love and judgment for us, and I have come to believe that if abuse was part of their life script they would have gone thru it.
Today I see my abuse as the starting point of my spiritual journey, can I complaint? I only feel gratitude for my soul for taking such a bold decision, it must be really wanting to meet God. And the way to God is only thru the deepest of darkness, waiting by the sunset I would have never seen the dawn that I see now!
I also trust that if you have seen the darkness you have the strength in you to travel to the dawn, that is strength of a soul that takes on abuse as a learning experience.
Today is a different day, today I am learning to Trust universal love and judgment for us, and I have come to believe that if abuse was part of their life script they would have gone thru it.
Today I see my abuse as the starting point of my spiritual journey, can I complaint? I only feel gratitude for my soul for taking such a bold decision, it must be really wanting to meet God. And the way to God is only thru the deepest of darkness, waiting by the sunset I would have never seen the dawn that I see now!
I also trust that if you have seen the darkness you have the strength in you to travel to the dawn, that is strength of a soul that takes on abuse as a learning experience.
My mother was primary sexual abuser to me. I am rather sure she did not abuse others than me. But I know the other one did. I think I knew it even at time it happen to me, that I could not be only person he done this to. There is guilt, to know that he continue this, and do worse even, years after me. But at time, I did speak with police, I could not know who he was.
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roadrunner
Registrant
Vitaliy,
I hope you can let go of the guilt - it is such a heavy burden and it doesn't belong to you.
You are a good man and what you did at the time was all that was in your power. When a boy or young man is abused the power of shame is enormous. We do get past that, but it is a long journey.
Much love,
Larry
I hope you can let go of the guilt - it is such a heavy burden and it doesn't belong to you.
You are a good man and what you did at the time was all that was in your power. When a boy or young man is abused the power of shame is enormous. We do get past that, but it is a long journey.
Much love,
Larry