Vulnerability

[SubtleStuff]

Hi Chris,

We have lots of common ground here. My mother acts as if she were a saint. She is extraordinary skilled at putting herself in the victim seat and therefore protecting herself from any attack. She fails to confront directly men who've failed her yet takes out her anger indirectly on me (a vulnerable male). Her apparent generosity makes it virtually impossible to protect myself without feeling like an ungrateful pig. The subtlety of these trips is stunning and very challenging.

I for one would like to be valued for all of my complexities, rather than be graded for how many aspects of a rigid gender role I possess. I hate when people pigeon-hole me or run me through a checklist.

I've been thinking about this one. I'm not totally sure what I want to be valued for. I once read that I should be grateful that others don't kill me. The depth of our unconscious violence is that great. It would be nice if support for my healing process were stronger. Maybe I'm asking for too much.

I'd like to experience the joy, bliss and oneness the great mystics talk about. I think that would resolve alot (and perhaps all) of my problems in one shot.

Sincerely

S

 

[Celtaf]

Hi Chris,

We have lots of common ground here. My mother acts as if she were a saint. She is extraordinary skilled at putting herself in the victim seat and therefore protecting herself from any attack. She fails to confront directly men who've failed her yet takes out her anger indirectly on me (a vulnerable male). Her apparent generosity makes it virtually impossible to protect myself without feeling like an ungrateful pig. The subtlety of these trips is stunning and very challenging.

I for one would like to be valued for all of my complexities, rather than be graded for how many aspects of a rigid gender role I possess. I hate when people pigeon-hole me or run me through a checklist.

I've been thinking about this one. I'm not totally sure what I want to be valued for. I once read that I should be grateful that others don't kill me. The depth of our unconscious violence is that great. It would be nice if support for my healing process were stronger. Maybe I'm asking for too much.

I'd like to experience the joy, bliss and oneness the great mystics talk about. I think that would resolve alot (and perhaps all) of my problems in one shot.

Sincerely

S

That's very sad, that you are treated like a punching bag and that she takes no responsibility.