virginity

virginity
All I got to say about it is, don't do it if you're not truly in love or at at the very least physically attracted to her. I'm seriously wondering if those religious folks had it right the whole time when they say "Wait until marraige".

I seriously wonder because, my first time (of 2 in more than 20 years, yes I'm a social misfit) was with a girl that I was NOT in love with, a girl that I was NOT truly attracted to. I was simply hoping to find that satisfaction that I heard other guys talk about in terms of having sex with a girl.

Sex.......BIG DEAL

I would much rather have intimacy or even just a relationship. I'm clueless where to find that now. I've actually given up seriously, they're gonna have to find me now cuz I'm sick of asking.
 
And even now all that matters is pleasing my partner.

I've done that and moved onto another and then another etc. Thats easy!

What next it isn't enough.

Sorry for the rant down at the mo. Thought I was making progress then...

MARK
 
Well, its seems like virginity is the topic of the day and I lik ethe way people are sharing of themselves on this subject. When I was pondering is virginity one of the things stolen from us, I wasn't just coldly and technically thinking about being unsullied and pure as opposed to having any sexual act done upon you in any situation.

I was thinking probably more along Shadowkid's train in that while the personal choice to engage in mutually desired sex for the first time remained intact, my ability to react to it as the archetypical virgin did not.

My first sexual experience by pure personal choice was with a virgin and I actually feigned sexual clumsiness during our first time to match his actual inexperience. I had such a cold icy relationship towards sex back then, certainly not what I had imagined a true first time experience to be. I literally performed sex and love was far removed from the experience back then.

I guess I am saying CSA leaves us with specific sexual baggage of a nature that I cannot relate to a virgin(as I see the term) having to go through so that is the only hump I have to get over to now really see myself as a virgin during the period between the CSA and when I had my first sexual experience by choice
 
its all the same to
me dont mattr if i
wanna do it or if
someone does it
when i dont want it.
just all feels the
same
 
Hi everyone I am confused if in fact you were sexualy abused and the perp was giving you love and effection buying you things praising you because no one else was paying any attention to you.My abuse went on for about 3-4 years as I turned 13 and then something happened got off first time. So isn't that like losing your virginity? I did like the effection that I was getting for there were no family around as for we lived with the perp who was dads friend and were 1500 mile away from family and no step mom as for dad was divorced. My father always cut me down and would not believe me when I would tell him things so I shut down and the next best thing so I thought but know better now. I got cigs from my perp so I thought that was a trade then he took that away getting hooked. Then I started stealing them and hid them under a tree and would smoke on my paper rout. I did place a police report on this perp and there is a investigation going on as we speek. I am concidering filing a cival suit against this perp for it angers me to think he did this for his own benifit and was lying to me. Sorry for the long post guess needed to vent a little Bill.
 
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