Victims No Longer and Allies of Survivors of Abuse

[Born to Resist]

Within the last few months I've told 3 close friends about being abused by a male cousin and two female babysisters. I've also given them the book chapter in Victims No Longer addressed to "Friends" of survivors. They seem to respond to well and found the book chapter helpful. I've also managed to tell my parents and sister of my abuse. I'm planning to give them the entire book and ask them to start with the book chapter targeted for "Friends" (that is if they do read it).

I wanted to know if anyone else has done this and what was the reaction they received. What are things I should consider.

Also has anyone read the book by Laura Davis "Allies of Survivors of Abuse" (I think that's the title, her follow up to The Courage to Heal). What's your take on it? Should I read it? Is it worth given to "Allies" of male survivors?

 

[Sinking]

Hi BTR - I found it helpful to my family and to me for them to read Victims No Longer. I didn't specify any particular sections for them to read. From the book they could better understand what I was going through.

I also read Allies in Healing. Personally I didn't care for it. Though she is a survivor herself, I felt that Ms. Davis spoke somewhat negatively about survivors and their plight. I don't know if this angle was one she chose in order to appeal more to the "Allies", but it put me off. If I were you though, I wouldn't let my opinion sway you. Take a look at it and decide for yourself. I figure the more we know about what's happening to us and the more our friends and family know, the better off we all are. Peace - John