Victim or Survivor how well were you treated
reality2k4
Registrant
Its a pretty hypothetical question, but most of the stuff I have read about authorities treatment of boys who disclose is pretty damning to say the least.
It ranges mostly from the relevent authorities, police, social services, not knowing how to tackle disclosure at the point of contact.
There is a massive unknown by authorities in knowing how to join up the services to anybody who reports abuse.
OK, if I use one case of a 14yo, whose abuse was reported, he was really made to feel uncomfortable, and it was pretty much of an ordeal, as authorities failed to know how best to deal with the impact on the child.
Its pretty much like saying, OK, its all over now, so go home and you will just be OK.
It became a different matter when his guardians demanded a proper counsellor, but social services nor the police offered this to the boy.
What if we had a one stop approach, were kids who are abused are referred to a team of specialist workers who can assess the child at the earliest intervention time.
So we put the intervention time because the kid needs space to be strong enough to take the first step.
Never treat the child as though he is dirty, or different but be empathetic to what he/she has been through.
Since I disclosed it has been a nightmare finding the right way forward, and it is atypical that you have to scream out for what you really need without a team being able to say, hey this is the way to go.
I just wanted others reactions to how they felt on disclosure, because it is a difficult topic.
Q.1 Where you treated with empathy and care?
Q.2 Did they treat you as a survivor or otherwise/ indifferent or non caring?
Q.3 Do you think they are equipped to deal with survivors, or not?
There are many other questions, but as a disclaimer, anybody reading this should report abuse, its just that I am trying to find out what others feel.
It is only us who can make the difference, not the authorities,
ste
It ranges mostly from the relevent authorities, police, social services, not knowing how to tackle disclosure at the point of contact.
There is a massive unknown by authorities in knowing how to join up the services to anybody who reports abuse.
OK, if I use one case of a 14yo, whose abuse was reported, he was really made to feel uncomfortable, and it was pretty much of an ordeal, as authorities failed to know how best to deal with the impact on the child.
Its pretty much like saying, OK, its all over now, so go home and you will just be OK.
It became a different matter when his guardians demanded a proper counsellor, but social services nor the police offered this to the boy.
What if we had a one stop approach, were kids who are abused are referred to a team of specialist workers who can assess the child at the earliest intervention time.
So we put the intervention time because the kid needs space to be strong enough to take the first step.
Never treat the child as though he is dirty, or different but be empathetic to what he/she has been through.
Since I disclosed it has been a nightmare finding the right way forward, and it is atypical that you have to scream out for what you really need without a team being able to say, hey this is the way to go.
I just wanted others reactions to how they felt on disclosure, because it is a difficult topic.
Q.1 Where you treated with empathy and care?
Q.2 Did they treat you as a survivor or otherwise/ indifferent or non caring?
Q.3 Do you think they are equipped to deal with survivors, or not?
There are many other questions, but as a disclaimer, anybody reading this should report abuse, its just that I am trying to find out what others feel.
It is only us who can make the difference, not the authorities,
ste