Venting over, back on track,moving up

[totally lost]

I feel badly to have vented in such a pain filled way.

But I think it was like hitting a wall and then saying ok, so now that I have hit..what do I do?

I know what I have to do. I have to stand up and realize that as painful as it has been and may be in the future at times, I have to stand up and climb over.

So I will get into therapy, we will go on with our lives. We have a wonderful family, he can not take that away from us unless we let him.

You just want it to all go away. Maybe it can never just go away. But I realize that I have a choice now in how I deal with it. I can give in and curl up in a ball, or I can stand strong beside my husband give him the support he needs and see what we still have ahead of us. Everything. We still have a lifetime ahead of us. I know I will fell bad some days, feel stress or sadness. That is ok, I just can not let that be all that I feel . I have to be able to move ahead at the same time.I love my husband more than the world. That can never be taken away,so it is just a matter of coping skills and support now for both of us. Hanging on and moving up a little bit.

 

[Trish4850]

TL,

Good for you. I read your post yesterday but didn't have the time to respond. It wasn't TMI, it was how you felt at the time which was just completely overwhelmed by the nightmare that has invaded your life.

You will be OK; your husband will be OK and your kids will be OK. You have a wonderful foundation and that will carry you through this wreck. Things will get bumpy and you and your husband will get upset and sometimes, you will need to crawl into a ball and just cry. Your kids will see it and be upset, but you will stand up again and give them a hug, assure them that it'll be OK and get on with life. As I said above, you have already layed the foundation of a good life and a loving family. That will carry you and your kids through, even when everything seems to be falling apart.

ROCK ON........Trish

 

[roadrunner]

totally lost,

I'm glad things are looking a bit brighter for you and your partner now. And of course you are right. Trying to find ways to make if just go away will be fruitless, of that I can assure you.

But recovery is possible, and I can tell you from my own experience that long before that point things DO start to get a whole lot better. Just don't give up and be prepared for the rocky moments as well as the breakthroughs. It's all part of the process of healing.

Much love,
Larry