update from PAS!!
Hi Everyone! I dont know if there's too many people on here that remember me.. but my H and I are still together, getting a lot better.
We're super busy with our 17 month old little girl.. my postpartum depression seems to be on the mend finally, and still dealing with the death of my father, but its been a year (this week) now so its easier to bear... time does help with that healing indeed.
My H has stopped going to his mens group regularly, feels he doesnt need to go as often (he went weekly for 3 years). We are still in couples therapy a few times a year...
My H's case wrapped up in June and the perp agreed to resign his position and never teach anywhere again in exchange for no charges being laid.. which is good because that way NOBODY had to testify. It was totally down to the wire (2 days before the hearing) but then we were notified it was not going to happen (yay).
Anyhow my H's anger attacks are not as frequent anymore, he's taking some university classes and doing very well which is helping his self esteem. I think the positive result of the case has had a really beneficial effect on him. He was prepared to accept wahtever outcome came his way, but things really did work out for the best.
Too bad there's no foundation for him to apply for $$ to cover the university education that he never undertook on account of his S.A. I guess when its a teacher that abuses you you kind of lose enthusiasm for school. Its a crying shame because he's got a 98% in the class he's taking right now. Onwards and upwards I guess. I know this life is not fair, certainly so many things have happened to us lately thats for sure.
A note to all new comers - I was active on this board in 2001-2004 and havign many problems wtih my H and my relationship. With a lot of work my H has really come a long way and things are a lot better. They really came to a head when after the birth of our first child I had a very bad case of postpartum depression, mostly due to the horrible interactions between my husband and myself - he was quite controlling and abusive and it was really hard to take. Thank God that he has decided to take my illness seriously and is committed to us (myself and our daughter) otherwise I dont know if he'd have done all the work he has done to get where he is now. So there IS hope, but it does take a lot of work for both people involved in the relationship.
We're super busy with our 17 month old little girl.. my postpartum depression seems to be on the mend finally, and still dealing with the death of my father, but its been a year (this week) now so its easier to bear... time does help with that healing indeed.
My H has stopped going to his mens group regularly, feels he doesnt need to go as often (he went weekly for 3 years). We are still in couples therapy a few times a year...
My H's case wrapped up in June and the perp agreed to resign his position and never teach anywhere again in exchange for no charges being laid.. which is good because that way NOBODY had to testify. It was totally down to the wire (2 days before the hearing) but then we were notified it was not going to happen (yay).
Anyhow my H's anger attacks are not as frequent anymore, he's taking some university classes and doing very well which is helping his self esteem. I think the positive result of the case has had a really beneficial effect on him. He was prepared to accept wahtever outcome came his way, but things really did work out for the best.
Too bad there's no foundation for him to apply for $$ to cover the university education that he never undertook on account of his S.A. I guess when its a teacher that abuses you you kind of lose enthusiasm for school. Its a crying shame because he's got a 98% in the class he's taking right now. Onwards and upwards I guess. I know this life is not fair, certainly so many things have happened to us lately thats for sure.
A note to all new comers - I was active on this board in 2001-2004 and havign many problems wtih my H and my relationship. With a lot of work my H has really come a long way and things are a lot better. They really came to a head when after the birth of our first child I had a very bad case of postpartum depression, mostly due to the horrible interactions between my husband and myself - he was quite controlling and abusive and it was really hard to take. Thank God that he has decided to take my illness seriously and is committed to us (myself and our daughter) otherwise I dont know if he'd have done all the work he has done to get where he is now. So there IS hope, but it does take a lot of work for both people involved in the relationship.
Keep up posted from time too time. My life has been very very busy. 