Understanding the Lonliness

[chase-keith]

Hello. I am a partner of a survivor. He has family and me however he feels lonely and can not explain why. He also has anxiety and it seems to be more prominent at night at bed. Could someone please give me some insight on this?

Thanks,
Keith

 

[Trish4850]

Keith,

Welcome.

I can only speak from what my b/f tells me and that's that he feels very alone. I've told him about this site and how it has help me so much to know that I'm not alone and that it may be beneficial to him. Unfortunately, he's not in a place yet where he feels he can talk to anyone but me and his T. He too feels very lonely despite the love I give him, that our friends give him and my family gives to him. He's just not ready to release that loneliness yet because that would mean trusting other people.

Perhaps that's where your parnter is. It's a very sad thing to watch and all I can tell you is to continue to be there for him and love him. Sooner, hopefully rather than later, he will work himself into a place where he is willing to reach out to others and not hold on to the loneliness.

ROCK ON.........Trish

 

[roadrunner]

Chase-Keith,

I replied to you on your other posting about this problem. I hope it's of some use to you.

I also hope you will stick with us here on the site and continue contributing to our discussions. Talking about things really does help a lot.

Much love,
Larry

 

Keith,

As a survivor, Bed-time is the worst. That is when my demons come out to play. Their sole purpose is to drive me insane...they are doing a great job. Nighttime is when the memories come back...nighttime is when the feelings are the most real. I fucking hate bedtime!

If I were you...I would holdmy guy tightly...and asure him that the demons are from the past...not the present.

I think you'll be paid in spades if you are the most understanding/loving at bedtime. Bedtime is my witching hour...thats why I stay up so late.

Love, Will