Understanding it isn't about you
Understanding that in order to move forward and heal if possible we all must have a safe place to bring to light our inner turmoil, the pain that bites our soul, the shame that makes us hide.
Words are just tools used to explore the feelings we deal with inside every day and as we have noticed words are really limited for describing that internal struggle. When some post in any of the threads or in chat it is a brave thing to do, they are letting you see their internal turmoil and doing the best they can to bring it to light for their own sake and yes at times just to be told someone understands or is dealing with the same thing.
When I post, I post from a place of this is what is going on with me, this is how my struggle is at this time, this is what is or isn't working for me and I just need to know I'm not alone in my pain.
I never post with the intent to change anyone's view, discount another point of view or to target anyone. I hope that by posting my internal struggle and triumphs it might help as my reading others post help me so much. Let's honor each others story and be there to hold space so they can do their work because that is the most important aspect of this brotherhood.
We all have issues that could be triggered at any time, let's look at ourselves first without giving more meaning to a person's post than was intended. Let's reach out via private message for clarification.
I myself believe we need to defend this place as a safe place to share. No one should stay silent for fear of someone else's reactions, we had been silent too long for other people's needs.
Always start your statement with Possible Triggers either on forums or Chat. In chat give people a chance to leave before you start but don't stay silent if you need to speak.
We don't all have to agree, but we should never re-victimize someone for sharing their personal struggle.
One of the best skills to have is to learn to give another struggling person the grace to express.
You have all helped me with your sharing, it is a powerful healing tool for me. Thank you
Words are just tools used to explore the feelings we deal with inside every day and as we have noticed words are really limited for describing that internal struggle. When some post in any of the threads or in chat it is a brave thing to do, they are letting you see their internal turmoil and doing the best they can to bring it to light for their own sake and yes at times just to be told someone understands or is dealing with the same thing.
When I post, I post from a place of this is what is going on with me, this is how my struggle is at this time, this is what is or isn't working for me and I just need to know I'm not alone in my pain.
I never post with the intent to change anyone's view, discount another point of view or to target anyone. I hope that by posting my internal struggle and triumphs it might help as my reading others post help me so much. Let's honor each others story and be there to hold space so they can do their work because that is the most important aspect of this brotherhood.
We all have issues that could be triggered at any time, let's look at ourselves first without giving more meaning to a person's post than was intended. Let's reach out via private message for clarification.
I myself believe we need to defend this place as a safe place to share. No one should stay silent for fear of someone else's reactions, we had been silent too long for other people's needs.
Always start your statement with Possible Triggers either on forums or Chat. In chat give people a chance to leave before you start but don't stay silent if you need to speak.
We don't all have to agree, but we should never re-victimize someone for sharing their personal struggle.
One of the best skills to have is to learn to give another struggling person the grace to express.
You have all helped me with your sharing, it is a powerful healing tool for me. Thank you
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