Trust Issues

[ajm5605]

Good afternoon,
I thank anyone taking the time to read this and your input is welcome. I am a survivor of sexual abuse. I was abused for years by my brother. before the abuse started he wasa hero in my eyes, my bestfriend. After the abuse, i was unable to truat anyone. I am now 24 years old, and have been married for 3 years to an amazing woman. Though, my past is a constant burden, making me scared and almost inable to trust her fully. Any help or input is appreciates! Thank you!

Aj

 

[Sven]

Hi Ajm! Welcome to MS... Sorry you have a reason to be here though.
I think most of us have trust issues because of the abuse, if not all. But you are aware of that and looking for help, here.
And you may have issues trusting your wife, but you trusted and opened up enough that you are now married right?
That's a pretty good start. I hope you will get to like this place and find the help you are looking for.

Sven

 

[Castle]

Does she know of the abuse? I know this topic pretty well. Took me a while to completely trust her and its a "funny"story. That perp brother of mines, house had a decent fire. Some people asked if I had anything to do with it...she offered me an aliby if I needed one. While it sounds mental, it showed me she's on MY team. College renters left a candle going= fire

What does she have to do to prove she's on your side?

 

[Jude]

Hey AJM5605,

I see you've been a member for a while, but just began to post. Thats great. You can already see that you are not alone in having trust issues.

You will find lots of input here into dealing with spouse/trust issues, but I hope you will consider entering therapy to begin working on this in earnest. Lack of trust puts a strain on any relationship, so if you want to keep your marraige healthy and moving forward, it might be wise to be proactive about this.

Keep posting and sharing. You can trust us with your feelings, no matter how "out there" they may seem.

Be well,

Jude