Triggers and How to Handle Them
Well this takes the cake as my parents give me a $32,000 2013 car. My father just turned 100 and my mother is 95 I think. I really don't know how to handle this. I shouldn't complain because in normal circumstances I should be very happy being given such a gift.
My father was able to drive till about late last summer until his hip didn't let him walk to the car. Now he wants to give me the car because he doesn't need it and he can get back money he paid in insurance premium for the year. Then he adds a but, I HAVE to take them wherever and whenever they need to go someplace such as a doctor's appointment or my mother going grocery shopping. Duh hey! I've been doing that since last year.
About 8 years ago I built an addition on my house specially for my parents to live and brought them up here so I could take care of them. They were supposed to pay for the addition with the money they made selling their condo. The market tanked just before they moved in. They told me that they couldn't pay me for the addition because if I lose my house because they won't have any money to live on. WTF, how about me where am I supposed to live without money. My house was mortgage free before building that fucken addition, now it cost me a couple of thousand dollars a month for those payments. My taxes also went from $6,000 to $14.000 because of that addition.
My mother was always the one to beat me, it was just a constant argument with her. and my father didn't pay any attention to what was going on. When I was 13 my mother started staying in Florida for the winters and my father went down for the weekends so I was the home alone kid, no brothers or sisters. During the summers they always went on cruises or around the world trips for a couple of months at a time, I was not invited.
It's not like my parents don't have money, they had 2 houses, 3 cars and I went to a high class private school. It was my parents money that got me through high school so I should be thankful for that. Money talked back in those day for graduating high school. I didn't even go to my own graduation, I know they didn't go. I was busy turning tricks. When I told my T what was going on a couple of years ago he asked me if I really thought that they would have changed over the years. I guess I hoped so since I really didn't live at home since I was 12-1/2 but rather I was with papasan turning tricks.
A lot of guys here are probably thinking that this was a nice present and I'm just ungrateful cry baby. But my wife and I each had a car. OK they weren't from this century and they did have between them over 300,000 miles and they weren't new when we got them, but it was all I could afford. Now I have to take a present that I didn't need and with a bunch of conditions along with it. I could go on and on but I would have liked to tell them to shove the car up their asses. I figure that since I brought them up here it costs me about $3,500 dollars a month more than before. Oh yeah, that doesn't include their utilities. I also lose work since I have to leave work early or late because they have to go somewhere.
Since this all went on yesterday he asked me today if I turned in his plates yet because he wants to get his refund. I told him no and he asked why. So I told him that my wife works till 8pm on Wednesdays and I had to leave early from work to take you both to the doctor. So he tells me again that as soon as he gets the receipt for his plates being turned in he can get his refund.
They didn't give me the car out of love and affection but it was a business deal shoved down my throat. My mother still claims she never wanted to move up here. She told me that for the first time when the moving truck was still being unloaded.
I started this post because I was upset and really triggered. I was hoping that I would just cool down by the time I finished this and I wouldn't post it, but at the moment I feel like stopping my anti drinking meds and just get shit faced. I should just get it through my thick head that they never cared about me and they never will.
Peace, Rainbows, Love, Healing & Hope
My father was able to drive till about late last summer until his hip didn't let him walk to the car. Now he wants to give me the car because he doesn't need it and he can get back money he paid in insurance premium for the year. Then he adds a but, I HAVE to take them wherever and whenever they need to go someplace such as a doctor's appointment or my mother going grocery shopping. Duh hey! I've been doing that since last year.
About 8 years ago I built an addition on my house specially for my parents to live and brought them up here so I could take care of them. They were supposed to pay for the addition with the money they made selling their condo. The market tanked just before they moved in. They told me that they couldn't pay me for the addition because if I lose my house because they won't have any money to live on. WTF, how about me where am I supposed to live without money. My house was mortgage free before building that fucken addition, now it cost me a couple of thousand dollars a month for those payments. My taxes also went from $6,000 to $14.000 because of that addition.
My mother was always the one to beat me, it was just a constant argument with her. and my father didn't pay any attention to what was going on. When I was 13 my mother started staying in Florida for the winters and my father went down for the weekends so I was the home alone kid, no brothers or sisters. During the summers they always went on cruises or around the world trips for a couple of months at a time, I was not invited.
It's not like my parents don't have money, they had 2 houses, 3 cars and I went to a high class private school. It was my parents money that got me through high school so I should be thankful for that. Money talked back in those day for graduating high school. I didn't even go to my own graduation, I know they didn't go. I was busy turning tricks. When I told my T what was going on a couple of years ago he asked me if I really thought that they would have changed over the years. I guess I hoped so since I really didn't live at home since I was 12-1/2 but rather I was with papasan turning tricks.
A lot of guys here are probably thinking that this was a nice present and I'm just ungrateful cry baby. But my wife and I each had a car. OK they weren't from this century and they did have between them over 300,000 miles and they weren't new when we got them, but it was all I could afford. Now I have to take a present that I didn't need and with a bunch of conditions along with it. I could go on and on but I would have liked to tell them to shove the car up their asses. I figure that since I brought them up here it costs me about $3,500 dollars a month more than before. Oh yeah, that doesn't include their utilities. I also lose work since I have to leave work early or late because they have to go somewhere.
Since this all went on yesterday he asked me today if I turned in his plates yet because he wants to get his refund. I told him no and he asked why. So I told him that my wife works till 8pm on Wednesdays and I had to leave early from work to take you both to the doctor. So he tells me again that as soon as he gets the receipt for his plates being turned in he can get his refund.
They didn't give me the car out of love and affection but it was a business deal shoved down my throat. My mother still claims she never wanted to move up here. She told me that for the first time when the moving truck was still being unloaded.
I started this post because I was upset and really triggered. I was hoping that I would just cool down by the time I finished this and I wouldn't post it, but at the moment I feel like stopping my anti drinking meds and just get shit faced. I should just get it through my thick head that they never cared about me and they never will.
Peace, Rainbows, Love, Healing & Hope