trigger alert- treated an adult male for rape

[Tyr]

Hey guys.

Working at my job and had someone come in with wounds on face and body and divulged he was raped.

Some of his conduct was strange but at least I treated him respectfully. He wanted to shower, and I encouraged him not to. He was unsure about getting an exam as the rapist allegedly used condoms. But I encouraged him that even still, other kinds of tissue evidence are available.

He went to the ER of the hospital but it was...a debacle. He made a scene and evidently got kicked out. He called me a few hours later and thanked me for treating me normally which was cool. I checked with a rape crisis counselor later and tried to preserve his choices which I did and got complimented. But it was WAY out of my scope and it didn't trigger me. But given that part of my harassment for reporting my rape is gang stalking related, it was terrible to say I wasn't sure if this was real or a drug addict being paid to just act and play a part (please research organized gang stalking and "street theatre" ).

Whether it was or was not I treated him fairly and kindly as I wished so many adults could have and would not treat me these last 3 years.

Tyr OUT

 

[kcinohio]

Not sure what the job situation is, but sounded like you handled it well.

Hope the harassment of yourself you mentioned isn't something that is ongoing. That sounds troubling to deal with.

 

[Tyr]

thank you kc. Yes it is. But I am trying to endure.

 

[victor-victim]

a little kindness goes a long long way.
especially immediately following the trauma.
it makes me glad to hear how you handled yourself
in this horrible situation.
you didn't crack and you shared your strength and compassion.

 

[Tyr]

thanks ;-)

 

[oriolesguy]

Tyr,

Whether you know it or not, what you did there is part of what I'd call the silver lining.

My therapist indicated to me at one point that there may be a time when I could help someone else who went through being raped as I have been. I didn't see how that could ever happen, but in various ways it has.

That is what has just happened to you, and there is something redemptive about that. Yes, you can empathize, and understand first hand, but you also know for sure that you aren't alone, and that you can help someone in ways that you haven't been. The bottom line there is that you are a good person, to be congratulated, and encouraged. And don't feel bad about taking compliments...you deserve them.

Oriolesguy

https://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=34744&Number=261634#Post261634

 

[Nothing Man]

Kindness never hurts anyone, especially one who has been traumatized. You were generous with your time and efforts by trying to help this person. Just don't let the incident consume you. In AA we often recite the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

 

[Damian1974]

I looked up "organized gang stalking." That's definitely something that has happened to me. Though I am shocked that in one website, they claim it happens mostly to women. That's part of a whole "damsel in distress" stereotype which is a stereotype, not fact.

https://gangstalkingsurfers.wordpress.com/gangstalking-cause-stalking-mobbing/

Very interesting. It describes in a nutshell some of the things that happened to me on occasion. The thing is, I have a hesitancy to want to reveal certain things that happened which I cannot prove with my eyewitness testimony (some of them were quite bizarre and simply saying they happened opens me up to accusations that I'm "crazy"), I did manage to figure out clever ways to prove SOMETHING fishy was going on during some of these harassing incidences.

This set of death threats, for instance, was sent to me immediately following one particular incident:

https://www.pbase.com/damian1974/death_threats_leading_up_to_plea_deal

However, I think it's useful to point out, the medical system is corrupt enough so, pretty much if you are being harassed, they will figure out how to "have a problem" or "debacle" happen in the ER -- or at least that's what they will SAY happened. Nobody is better equipped to cover up abuse of this nature than a hospital ER. In fact, certain people, when they engage in abuse of others, will WANT the person to immediately be transported to an ER afterwards, so that person can be discredited as "intoxicated" or whatever else.

 

[Damian1974]

This is an even better link to gang stalking.

https://forum.prisonplanet.com/index.php?topic=56441.0

And I am so surprised, what they describe is exactly what happened to me. Only, I was really careful to document and figure out all sorts of interesting ways to prove it was going on over the years.