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markgreyblue
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hey trevor -
please don't do that -
hang in there -
come back asap
and chat
let it out
m
please don't do that -
hang in there -
come back asap
and chat
let it out
m
Grunty1967b
Registrant
Trevor,
Any teen will have those feelings from time to time (actually I think I had a few years worth).
What I see here is your courage to let it out, and especially because you are a survivor of abuse, that takes even more courage.
You've basically got a double thing going on here. Normal teen stuff but moreso, your recovery.
Hang in there. Be kind to yourself. Let us support and encourage you in a way that you deserve.
Any teen will have those feelings from time to time (actually I think I had a few years worth).
What I see here is your courage to let it out, and especially because you are a survivor of abuse, that takes even more courage.
You've basically got a double thing going on here. Normal teen stuff but moreso, your recovery.
Hang in there. Be kind to yourself. Let us support and encourage you in a way that you deserve.
i used to get that some, and yes it does hurt, but you can go on. you know it wasnt your fault. there is a reason for statutory rape laws, kids cannot consent. they dont have the experience and maturity to understand. it wasnt your fault, but it wont matter what i say until you believe it inside yourself.
Grunty1967b
Registrant
Trev,
We want you to feel comfortbale in letting it all out here. It's what we're here for. We all help each other in the process.
The guy you faught with knows jack.
We want you to feel comfortbale in letting it all out here. It's what we're here for. We all help each other in the process.
The guy you faught with knows jack.
markgreyblue
Registrant
hey - keep complaining -
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markgreyblue
Registrant
you need to learn about what's bothering you
to do that
talk to us -
m
to do that
talk to us -
m
roadrunner
Registrant
Trev,
It's of course up to you what you say and when. Sometimes it feels like it's just too much to talk, and that's okay.
Just remember that when you are ready you have a LOT of guys here who are ready to listen, and who will not judge you or think less of you, whatever it is you need to say.
Much love,
Larry
It's of course up to you what you say and when. Sometimes it feels like it's just too much to talk, and that's okay.
Just remember that when you are ready you have a LOT of guys here who are ready to listen, and who will not judge you or think less of you, whatever it is you need to say.
Much love,
Larry
Trevor,
Those voices in your head said that no one wanted to listen, no one cared...well no one might not care, but the guys in this support group give a damn. They have been there. They have blazed the trail for those of us that still have to walk it. Yes, I am a little further along the trail than you, but our origins are similar. I cannot speack for any other support group, but the guys here give a damn. Don't let those voices lie to you. Those voices are scared and have been hurt too many times. You come here and type for a reason. There is something inside of you that says, this feels different. It does not feel so deadly. Eventually you may even use the word "safe" as an adjective.
Hang in there! We are here for you.
Danny
Those voices in your head said that no one wanted to listen, no one cared...well no one might not care, but the guys in this support group give a damn. They have been there. They have blazed the trail for those of us that still have to walk it. Yes, I am a little further along the trail than you, but our origins are similar. I cannot speack for any other support group, but the guys here give a damn. Don't let those voices lie to you. Those voices are scared and have been hurt too many times. You come here and type for a reason. There is something inside of you that says, this feels different. It does not feel so deadly. Eventually you may even use the word "safe" as an adjective.
Hang in there! We are here for you.
Danny
Grunty1967b
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I have to re-highlight what MarkGreyBlue said,
That is shame talking. It says it was your fault. It says you had choices. It says it IS too disgusting.
All lies!
It wasn't your fault, you as a child could not stop it.
Again,and when you are ready, as we have all said (without any of us prearranging our responses with each other) - we are here to listen and support you.
We love and accept you Trevor.
And your thoughts about what's bothering you is too disgusting, again, and this is so true for many of us here, that's the way we all have felt. It's what happens to us BECAUSE of the abuse.
That is shame talking. It says it was your fault. It says you had choices. It says it IS too disgusting.
All lies!
It wasn't your fault, you as a child could not stop it.
Again,and when you are ready, as we have all said (without any of us prearranging our responses with each other) - we are here to listen and support you.
We love and accept you Trevor.
Kirk Wayne
Registrant
Trevor
No one here is going to judge you, no on here is going to embarrass you, inact I expect there are some who have been in the same position that you have found yourself in, it really is the best to speak out, I didnt and it took thirty years for me to reach that point of where the silence was slowly driving me nuts, please dont take that long as it will cause you a hell of a lot of grief.
Just take your time, there is no rush, ramble if you wish ....... in time everything will start to fall into place.
Kirk
"Les grab this bull by the horns and swing it about a bit"
No one here is going to judge you, no on here is going to embarrass you, inact I expect there are some who have been in the same position that you have found yourself in, it really is the best to speak out, I didnt and it took thirty years for me to reach that point of where the silence was slowly driving me nuts, please dont take that long as it will cause you a hell of a lot of grief.
Just take your time, there is no rush, ramble if you wish ....... in time everything will start to fall into place.
Kirk
"Les grab this bull by the horns and swing it about a bit"
Kirk Wayne
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Grunty
You got it in one.
Kirk
"Les grab this bull by the horns and swing it about a bit"
You got it in one.
Kirk
"Les grab this bull by the horns and swing it about a bit"
Hang in there Trevor,
I know you tried to send me a PM but it probably was deleted for your protection. I can tell you that I am a safe person that would never hurt you but these days you can't be too sure.
I know the feelings of loneliness and needing someone to talk to. Sometimes in the past when I would get overwhelmed with these feelings, I ended up trusting the wrong person and ended up getting hurt or taken advantage of. I believe that no one here wants that to happen to you.
Both of us are new here, so it is suggested that we communicate in the forums for safety reasons. I will be joining as a member as soon as I finish writing this note to you. I am thinking that the Members forums will be a little bit more private. I sense that there is still some shameful things for you that you are not ready to say publically to everyone. It's OK.
Keep writing and I promise to read your posts and write back to you.
More than anything, please be safe and take care of yourself.
Sunny
I know you tried to send me a PM but it probably was deleted for your protection. I can tell you that I am a safe person that would never hurt you but these days you can't be too sure.
I know the feelings of loneliness and needing someone to talk to. Sometimes in the past when I would get overwhelmed with these feelings, I ended up trusting the wrong person and ended up getting hurt or taken advantage of. I believe that no one here wants that to happen to you.
Both of us are new here, so it is suggested that we communicate in the forums for safety reasons. I will be joining as a member as soon as I finish writing this note to you. I am thinking that the Members forums will be a little bit more private. I sense that there is still some shameful things for you that you are not ready to say publically to everyone. It's OK.
Keep writing and I promise to read your posts and write back to you.
More than anything, please be safe and take care of yourself.
Sunny
roadrunner
Registrant
Trev,
The point is that when you talk about these things you will see that these SAME things have happened to so many of the rest of us. You are NOT alone. You did nothing to be ashamed of.
As Grunty put it to you, often what happens is that the shame talks to us and lies to us. When that happens, what we need to do is TALK about what troubles us. That's our way of making the shame go away. Shame only controls us when it can keep things in the dark. When they are out in the open we realize this stuff happens to lots of survivors and there are good reasons for it. We learn that we are not freaks and fuck-ups, and that what's fucked up isn't us, but what happened to us.
Much love,
Larry
The point is that when you talk about these things you will see that these SAME things have happened to so many of the rest of us. You are NOT alone. You did nothing to be ashamed of.
As Grunty put it to you, often what happens is that the shame talks to us and lies to us. When that happens, what we need to do is TALK about what troubles us. That's our way of making the shame go away. Shame only controls us when it can keep things in the dark. When they are out in the open we realize this stuff happens to lots of survivors and there are good reasons for it. We learn that we are not freaks and fuck-ups, and that what's fucked up isn't us, but what happened to us.
Much love,
Larry