Thinking about a new therapist
I stopped seeing my therapist back in November, having declared myself "cured". Hmmmm, well. That was part of it, but I think part of it was that I didn't really see us progressing any more. Too, there were some things that irritated me about him. Specifically:
* His cellphone would often ring during our session. He didn't answer but turned it off. Still, kinda distracting.
* Several times during our sessions, he would be talking and become lost in thought and would stop and say "I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. What was I saying?"
* At times, he would start talking about his own problems and go off on that for a while. Things that didn't seem at all related to what we were discussing. It's my dime, so listen to my problems, o.k.?
* We spent a lot of time talking about the physical abuse by my father, emotional distance of my mother, etc. In several different sessions he made the comment that the sexual abuse by my brother was perhaps the only "good" thing happening to me during all that, since at least my brother was showing me some attention. That really hacked me off. I think I was so stunned by that at the time that I made a timid response that I certainly didn't see it that way. The last time he did it put me in tears and I became argumentative about it. He never said it again.
Anyway, thinking about finding a new therapist if I decide to start therapy again. I feel like I'm at a point where I understand the past, I just need help in learning how to manage it. I've been thinking about trying a female therapist next time. What do y'all think? Any thoughts appreciated.
* His cellphone would often ring during our session. He didn't answer but turned it off. Still, kinda distracting.
* Several times during our sessions, he would be talking and become lost in thought and would stop and say "I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. What was I saying?"
* At times, he would start talking about his own problems and go off on that for a while. Things that didn't seem at all related to what we were discussing. It's my dime, so listen to my problems, o.k.?
* We spent a lot of time talking about the physical abuse by my father, emotional distance of my mother, etc. In several different sessions he made the comment that the sexual abuse by my brother was perhaps the only "good" thing happening to me during all that, since at least my brother was showing me some attention. That really hacked me off. I think I was so stunned by that at the time that I made a timid response that I certainly didn't see it that way. The last time he did it put me in tears and I became argumentative about it. He never said it again.
Anyway, thinking about finding a new therapist if I decide to start therapy again. I feel like I'm at a point where I understand the past, I just need help in learning how to manage it. I've been thinking about trying a female therapist next time. What do y'all think? Any thoughts appreciated.
