Things that make you feel okay. (triggers?)

[demonboi]

I dunno if there are triggers or not but I put up a warning just in case.

Sometimes I get scared to post, write, say anything about what happened cos its scary. But then I thought about, what if I stop focusing on what scares me and focus on what makes me happy you know?

So yeah, here are some things that make me feel okay.

My girlfriend Sheena
Talking with Sheena
Skating [even though im no supposed to]
Cooking with my dad
Being with my dad in general
Hanging out with my friends and not having to worry about anything.


oh yeah and Sheena!

 

[roadrunner]

Nyjah,

That's a good way to look at things. After all, you are Nyjah first; you have your own worth and qualities, and these are still yours even after all that has happened to you.

I like your list, but you forgot to mention Sheena! I am sooooo going to report this to her!!!

Take care,
Larry

 

[demonboi]

! yikes.

sheena -why did you forget me?

me-well, you see, what had happened was um...



I heart sheena!

 

[roadrunner]

Nyjah,

Seriously bro, you have made such a lot of progress since you first came here, and it shows in this thread. The confidence, the humor, the refusal to stay knocked down, the desire to move forward: that's all you, the real Nyjah.

I am so happy for you, and so VERY proud of you!

Take care,
Larry

 

[healing_inside]

Nyjah,

Glad u felt comfortable to post again.

Glad u mentioned the good things that are going on with u. We as survivors sometimes forget to consider CSA stuff is not our whole life.

Thanks 4 the reminder.

 

[Sinking]

Nyjah - I like your list and that fact that you're able to see some of the better things life has to offer. In the spirit of your post, here are a few things that make me feel okay:

- Having spit-ball wars with my 9 year old daughter.
- Playing the "What did that one taste like" game after either my daughter or I belch.
- Watching the cat chase the dog.
- Watching the dog chase the cat and try to eat her whole.
- Watching my wife roll her eyes as I do these things, as I let my nine-year-old self out to play for a few minutes.
- Watching the gazillions of birds fly over my house in migration.
- Writing notes to my daughter that I will give her in the future.
- Listening to good music.
- Reading posts from men and boys who were hurt so badly but are healing....that makes me feel good. So thank you. - Peace John

 

[demonboi]

Cool, I'm glad everyone likes this thread. I wasn't sure where to put it cos I didn't know where it should be, it was a tie between Off Topic and here.

Sheena and I had an awesome time tonight, it was really cool. I'm feeling a bit better about posting [or i wouldn't be writing this]. Anyways, glad everyone likes it and hope all is well.

Sinking, you sound like a bit of a troublemaker. troublemakers unite!

 

[roadrunner]

Here are just a few of mine and Little Larry's:

1. Going out to dinner with my wife and just talking.

2. Playing with Bruno (german shepherd) and watching him freak out over his dog toys.

3. Going to the park and throwing Bruno's "stick" (fence post).

4. Playing poker with my wife and kids for money (piles of old pre-WWI German bank notes).

5. Popping popcorn and watching gangster movies with my daughter.

6. Sitting by a rushing stream listening to the water.

7. Reading a good book with a glass of wine.

8. Listening to blues tunes and figuring them out on my guitar.

9. Cooking outside.

10. Seeing jobs all over the house that need to be done, and going out for a walk in the sun instead.

11. Working with my students.

12. Connecting with my brother survivors.


Larry

 

[Kirk Wayne]

1. Being with my grandchildren age range from 18 months to five years
2. Watching Peter Pan 1 & 2 with my grandaughters
3. Listening to my second eldest grandaughter/goddaughter singing "Somewhere over the rainbow" (shes four)
4. Christmas day with the family although I used to hate it when younger.
5. My youngest grandaughters smile and laugh
6. Sharing with other survivors.
7. Listening to my music collection and finally reading Texas A&M University "Anthropology in the news".

Good thread

Kirk

 

[Ivanhoe]

GOOD THREAD!!


Let's see, what are a few of my favorite things, besides Ranata.

Car trips, puppies, long walks, water, anything water...swimming, boating, not much of a fisherman unless they're biting, cats, my cats would never forgive me if I forget cats, involved conversations with people I like, group, can I say group, that I'm enjoying the process of it, now, finally.
These are a few of my favorite things...unless, of course, you want to listen to me talk about my daughters, that could take up the rest of the capacity of the web site.

David

 

[WalkingSouth]

This is so cool Nyjah, thanks for starting this one!

I like walking in the park with my wife

sitting in front of the fire talking with my wife

watching a movie with my daughter

sitting around on long winter evenings with my daughter and solving the worlds problems

traveling through the beautiful Oregon countryside in the spring and seeing so much beauty that it hurts

singing with my quartet or men's chorus

sitting in our Cannon Beach motel room looking out on the stormy surf

music - from rock to Bach

reading

The list could go on...

Courage,

John

 

[alexey]

- I like to play with my cat

- I like to cook with my brother and eat

- I like to do shopping

- Like to talk on the phone to dad and mom

- I like meeting with schoolmates

- I like to play computer games

- I like to stay on the balcony and watch the mountains, and trees

- I like to read social-science articles

- I like to find you are feeling O.K.

 

[Kirk Wayne]

Alexy

"I like to find you are feeling O.K."

I like that

Kirk

 

[blueelectron9]

I like hiking/backpacking/camping--getting out to nature.

Putting up Halloween decorations.

Cooking treats and cookies.

Of course, my partner, Doug, and my new found MaleSurvivor friends.

--Scotty

 

[andrew51]

That last hug and kiss from the kids before bedtime. Peace, Andrew

 

[ftgf]

Doing the Sunday crossword puzzle, early in the morning on the couch, with Mary.

When my cat climbs on my desk and lays accross the keyboard, while I'm trying to work.

When my dog is all happy to see me, after I have been away on a business trip for a few days.

Great thread! Thanks for starting it.

 

[melliferal]

Driving in the country - a shame gas is so high.

When you talk to your dog, or other animal, and its facial expressions and gestures make it seem as if they understand you completely - I love that!

Walking on a breezy day.

Spending time with my bees, most of all.

 

[Mystic Rhythm]

Playing D&D Miniatures or D&D RPG with my buds.

Watching Just For Laughs festivals and Stargate SG-1 episodes on TV. Ooooh can't forget the new Battlestar Galactica series. Love that! Charlie Jade too while I'm thinking about it...

Listening to my mp3 tunes.

MR

 

[Redsongbird]

This is a great thread! I just had to get invovled.......Hmmmmmmmm

1. going out to eat with my wife.

2. Today we are going to go buy her a winter coat I like seeing her smile when she gets something she really likes.

3. Reading a good mystery book one that I can't get my mind off when I am not reading it.

4. Drinking my hot cocoa from TIm Horton's on a rainy day...like this morning

5. Listening to music.....

6. Picking out a new candle...smelling all the different kinds....

7. Since I started back to college (at 44) lately getting my homework finished! ha!

8. Knowing there are other men who though I have not met do know what its like.

9. Selecting Christmas cards

10. Watching leaves fall and all the colors!


Tobey 8-=)

 

[TX_Space]

1. The laughter of my children
2. Watching them sleep
3. Those unsolicited hugs from them
4. Putting up Christmas decorations
5. Listening to musical soundtracks and singing along with the kids!
6. Watching my kids perform in their productions
7. Dinner with friends
8. Meeting new friends...both online and in person
9. The smell of asphalt after the rain (good childhood memories)
10. Time with my family (sisters, nieces and nephews, cousins, aunts and uncles)

Thanks demonboi for a GREAT thread!