Therapy.....my therapist has "A Plan"

[EGL]

I talked to my therapist today about what's the "big overall plan" for my therapy, i.e., where are we going with this? My reason for asking is that in the 2 months I've been in therapy, we've spent probably 90% of the time talking about my father's physical abuse to me. I told my T that I've spent all my life growing up with my father, so I know what to expect from him (the abuse). I told him that I have higher anxiety levels with my brother (sexual abuser) and my first wife (infidelity with my brother), than I do with my father.

He said he was glad I asked the question and that it was a good one. He said that he sees my father as the main problem in what I am today. My father was there in my formative years, abusing me physically and mentally. My father basically set me up to be vulnerable for those who would abuse me later in life. He said it's vital that I understand the full impact of what my father's abuse did to me, and understand how it shaped me into what I am today.

Made me want to go kick my father's ass. But it was great to find out from him where we're going. I feel much more comfortable with him now, and feel like I understand more of what we're doing.

 

[Leosha]

Eddie,

I am glad that your therapist has 'a plan' and actually shared it with you! After all, you ARE the patient, you have the right to know what path your therapy is going to follow.

I can understand some, about how your father may be the root of all the abuse. My therapist told me the same thing when I started with her about a year ago. My father's abuse of me, my brother, my mother, everyone in the house, made me 'ripe' for being abused by another. He left our family when I was ten years old. My sexual abuse from someone else started few months later. Coincidence? I think not.

By the way, I would love to kick HIS ass now too, if I knew where he was!

leosha