Therapy is FUN! (not!)

[crisispoint]

First of all, therapy is helping me. My therapist is wonderful and validating and is really helping to the issues at hand. There is a dark side to this as well, though. Someone told me that good therapy is supposed to hurt because we're scouring out old wounds in order to heal from the. That may be true, brothers, but believe me, the "mental debreeding" process is NOT fun. Even with someone who is helping you.

Example: Today, we discussed that memory that I was going back and forth on whether or not it's real. AMong other things, we decided that I was at that point in my recovery where I needed the emotions as well as the memories in order to know that they were real. She talked me through a "controlled/grounded" flashback. Bottom line: it was real and BOY did that hurt coming out. But now, I know it was real, and this prick was more evil than I realized!....... Oh, yeah, she also made me aware that I have this continued issue of taking responsability on myself for what may have happened to others because I didn't tell anyone/do anything. I'm breaking that though.

But she's also making me aware that I am improving, and I feel it. Some days, not as much as I'd like, and there are occasional backslides, but I am healing and I want to improve to work on other areas in my life. She's great that way.

The point is, brothers, that therapy works. It isn't easy or fun, but it's a necessary evil on the road to recovery. If your therapist isn't helping you, find a new one. If you don't have a therapist, find one. Be sure to find one that works for you, but find one.

Peace and love (and healing!)

Scot

 

[Stephen_5]

Scot,

Nobody every said it was going to be easy but I know that it's worth it.

Take good care of yourself,

Steve

 

[Leosha]

I am glad that you recognize that you are getting help from therapy. I understand that, and no, it is not going to be fun, normally. If to work on my dark secrets were to be fun, I would do it with friends, not therapist, yes? But the important thing is to not give up on it, because to do that is to give up at yourself. To keep trying is what's happening. If you keep trying, you never fail. The only failure is to give up and not try.

No, it is not easy. But you are not easy. You are complex person. To heal you will be complex. To think of it that way, maybe is good thing that it is not easy. If it were easy, you would be simple as dirt. You are not dirt. That is good thing.

leosha