The worse was yet to come
I have not been here for a while, sorry Lloydy !
V. has in two days destroyed everything we had been working on, especially trust and empowerment.
I called him on Christmas Day to say I was dropping a present for him at his place. He said he was not at home but at his parents'. I was afraid he would do that and apparently his mother tried something on him on that night so he came back on the 25th in the evening instead of the 27th. He called me back. He was harsh, suspicious and asking stuff like what I wanted in return for the present I was giving him. He said he did not want to have to give me anything in return,like being forced in a relationship (????) and it was best to refuse my gift to him. He had a strange way of talking, nothing was clear , nor coherent but he definately wanted to hurt me.
When I asked him whether he meant he was afraid of a relationship with me or he did not have feelings for me, there was a big hesitation "heuh..........."then a blank then "I don not have feelings for you". I was devastated.
We were suppose to see each other yesterday evening (for a party with inceste.org members) so I told him maybe it was best for me not to come. He was silent at first and then said that maybe that was best. In the end, I went yesterday because two friends insisted that I would come. V was shocked to see me there (and to see me looking very pretty too !). He managed to sit in front of me a bit on the side and I ended up faing the two girls who are jealous of me. it turned out that V. is having an affair with one of the two, L. who is a survivor with 3 kids and going through a divorce right now. That girl is really immature,and the worst is that she behaves like his mother, being controlling and manipulative with him. The affair started about 3 weeks ago and L. was making sure the whole evening to show that she had power over him in front of me. V. was either trying to avoid me and sometimes listening to what I was saying. We did not talk to each other. Three hours later, it was becoming too unbearable to me, I left silently and he was at the other side of the restaurant room, on the computer with L. I gave him the bag with his present inside and a card telling him to do whatever he wanted with it(I wrote him on the card that since the relationship was over, he could accept the gift without being afraid of being manipulated. I also told him how much he hurt me and reminded him that I suffered too much in my life to want to hurt someone).
I am devastated, I have been crying a lot. Everything I was trying to do with V: helping him to be confident, to make choices that are good for him, leaving dysfunctionnal behaviour.Everything has been shattered. I can't even believe he did that on Christmas Day.
I just don't know anything , all I can do is keep crying.
Thanks for helping.
V. has in two days destroyed everything we had been working on, especially trust and empowerment.
I called him on Christmas Day to say I was dropping a present for him at his place. He said he was not at home but at his parents'. I was afraid he would do that and apparently his mother tried something on him on that night so he came back on the 25th in the evening instead of the 27th. He called me back. He was harsh, suspicious and asking stuff like what I wanted in return for the present I was giving him. He said he did not want to have to give me anything in return,like being forced in a relationship (????) and it was best to refuse my gift to him. He had a strange way of talking, nothing was clear , nor coherent but he definately wanted to hurt me.
When I asked him whether he meant he was afraid of a relationship with me or he did not have feelings for me, there was a big hesitation "heuh..........."then a blank then "I don not have feelings for you". I was devastated.
We were suppose to see each other yesterday evening (for a party with inceste.org members) so I told him maybe it was best for me not to come. He was silent at first and then said that maybe that was best. In the end, I went yesterday because two friends insisted that I would come. V was shocked to see me there (and to see me looking very pretty too !). He managed to sit in front of me a bit on the side and I ended up faing the two girls who are jealous of me. it turned out that V. is having an affair with one of the two, L. who is a survivor with 3 kids and going through a divorce right now. That girl is really immature,and the worst is that she behaves like his mother, being controlling and manipulative with him. The affair started about 3 weeks ago and L. was making sure the whole evening to show that she had power over him in front of me. V. was either trying to avoid me and sometimes listening to what I was saying. We did not talk to each other. Three hours later, it was becoming too unbearable to me, I left silently and he was at the other side of the restaurant room, on the computer with L. I gave him the bag with his present inside and a card telling him to do whatever he wanted with it(I wrote him on the card that since the relationship was over, he could accept the gift without being afraid of being manipulated. I also told him how much he hurt me and reminded him that I suffered too much in my life to want to hurt someone).
I am devastated, I have been crying a lot. Everything I was trying to do with V: helping him to be confident, to make choices that are good for him, leaving dysfunctionnal behaviour.Everything has been shattered. I can't even believe he did that on Christmas Day.
I just don't know anything , all I can do is keep crying.
Thanks for helping.
