The struggle of silence
idk what to even write.. I just know my husband has been suffering in silence for the past years and was finally able to say something about what he went through. We were dating when he was sexually abused by a cousin in Mexico as an adult.. He was really close to him they went out and drank together but he never imagine his close male cousin would do something to him like that.. he was in denial all this years until last week he was drunk and happy but out nowhere in the middle of our conversation he said “I’ve never told anyone about this because idk if it happened or not” He was hesitant to say anything but I encourage him to talk and made him feel safe and then everything just came out while I just listen in shock what my husband had went through, the words coming out his mouth saying “he raped me babe he raped me” I can’t get it out my head!! I continue to just think and over think what he went through and not saying anything because of fear of what people are going to say, fear of his cousin who has power in Mexico.. like what!!!! I’m a survivor myself and I have struggle with my own trauma this whole time not knowing my husband was going through the same thing but in silence.. I just don’t know what to do how to help him.. he hasn’t said anything to me about it since then but I can tell in his face and mood he is going through it! I’m seriously going through it as well I feel like I’m reliving my own trauma again is that even normal? This isn’t about me but HIM! Yet I feel so hopeless.. I don’t know how to approach him and have a sober conversation about it, how to help him?