The Norm

The Norm

Johnny

Registrant
Has anyone ever heard of an instance where incest was the norm in a family... and they saw nothing wrong with it?

I just found out my best friend (former best friend now) is not only a pedophile but was molested by his father and plans to molest his kids if ever he has any.

Can this man be helped?

What should I do?

As it looks now... I'm trying to get him out of my life.
 
Johnny,

The situation you describe is of course totally dysfunctional and dangerous.

I would say that you, as a survivor, should put as much distance between you and this guy as possible. If he can be helped, there is certainly nothing you can do and it seems perilous even to consider any contact with him.

Take care,
Larry
 
OK, that's just sick. Besides being "totally dysfunctional and dangerous", it's illegal. Somebody needs locked up. I've talked to child services before about a neighbor. Most of the people in that branch of the government are very caring people. Since you "just found out" this bit of information, how about mentioning this fact to him. Especially since he's a former friend, what have you got to lose?
 
Michael,

Yes, that was my thought at first. But I don't think the police can react to a report about what Johnny says someone else SAID happened to them and what they would do IF they had children. It's all outrageous, absolutely. But for the police I wonder if it would be hearsay.

Take care,
Larry
 
But Johnny claims the man 'is a pedophile'. He should be reported, investigated, locked up and castrated....I have other ideas too but will keep them to myself. - John
 
I agree with John on this one. Report the guy and let the police/CPS sort it out. Even if the guy was just shooting off his mouth, it would be extremely stupid at best. I wouldn't want to continue friendship with someone like that unless and until he was dealt with by authorities/counselors.

Hardhearted? Unforgiving? Perhaps.

Just the way I feel about it.

Johnny, I wish you the best in dealing with this event. It must be difficult for you to even comprehend.

Courage,

2nd John
 
My read of this from Johnny's post and what he has said in the other thread where this is being discussed is that the guy has just told Johnny these things - Johnny doesn't have any further information.

So what has happened is this: A (former) friend has told Johnny that he was abused by his father and that he has acted out by abusing children himself. He has also let Johnny know that he will abuse his own children if he has any, but what he means by that isn't clear: does it mean he is that callous and evil, or does it mean he is that overwhelmed with guilt? Either way it all looks very dangerous.

I know if someone were to come here and say such things in chat or on the DB, MS regards this as reportable to the authorities. What does MS do? Which authorities?

If one of the mods answers this, Johnny, I would say do the same and then stay away from the guy.

I understand the sentiment behind admonitions that you should act vigorously and decisively, and I too would like to see this guy pay a heavy price. But exactly what is in your power to do, apart from reporting to the police (or whoever MS reports to)? Pressing the matter further could lead you into big legal trouble (libel?), personal danger, and risk to your own recovery.

We leave murderers to the police to chase, and if we do that it doesn't mean we are uncommitted to a society free from killing; it means we are recognizing whose job it is to deal with these things. It seems to me that this is another one for those professionally qualified, and that a survivor can only report what he knows, to those who need to know it.

Take care,
Larry
 
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