Forgiveness was not a moment for me. Rather, it was a process over time when I replaced my shame with fortitude and my doubt with faith. I stopped looking at my past as the time that I was buried in sin and shame but rather it was the time that I was being planted-deep so I could grow. When shame and lust no longer became my weapons of choice, I replaced them with love and thriving. The process of forgiveness gave me the willingness to live courageously and chose love despite life's pain. Learning to be a good man despite my abuse and addictions was my vow, knowing it was not all my fault. The act of forgiveness meant I was no longer willing to carry this burden at my peril. For me, forgiveness was the acknowledgment of accepting my life's painful experiences as one variable which molded me and taught me the lessons I needed to learn but did not define me. The act of forgiveness became my bridge to sanity and released me from being perpetually tortured by my past. Enabling me to move forward reclaiming my identity as a son of God worthy of His healing power ...Connect to your Higher power, what ever that might be because when you change the way you look at things the things you look at change. Remembering to keep this perspective on life is not always easy, I can get discouraged, forget, or get distracted. But it helps when I remember. Thanks for reading.