I'm not sure it is pure ignorance when you look at the statistics. Statistics gathered in Canada indicate 48 percent of self identified homosexual men were sexually victimized before the age of 18. That is voluntary reporting so that only includes those gay men who understand that what was done to them was abuse, it does not include those who believe they "got an early start" or any over the other beliefs to avoid reality. If those people were added into the statistic it would not just be outrageously sad it would be devastating. I believe my vulnerability was preyed upon by a predator and I believe I was in large part targeted because of my sexuality. I believe this to be not so uncommon.When I read things like this it makes me mad, for a therapist to tell you that because you are gay it made you a target shows pure ignorance.
HOWEVER>>> The therapist going on to say anything about girlishness or anything of that form beyond pointing out vulnerability is totally not useful and could be damaging for sure.